why do men play cruel games??

[ianoulla]

I just found this forum and hope to find some answers to my heartbreak. Despite being experienced in life I fell in love like a teenager and now my heart is broken and I can't see a way forward, because I am asking why did he do this to me??? He quietly pursued me for 3 yrs, he prepared me, I resisted, but was flattered, another time another place etc, when we met it was total attraction from day 1, but I fought it, good sense prevailed until recent weeks, as I am 20 yrs older than him, he doesn't know this, he thinks the gap is only 10 yrs.

In the last 2 weeks, he basically stepped up the chase, was relentless in his attention, flattery, compliments, despite me saying I'm not desperate or a pushover. He made me laugh, he was in my heart and my head, we fitted together beautifully, we were drawn like magnets. I warned him not to waste my time, that I was not easy game, that I didn't want anything from him except for him to care about me. He poured the love into me, verbally and physically loving etc. Then all of a sudden, nothing, no communication, no explanation, just nothing, he disappeared. I did not sleep with him, though I was tempted.

I live part of the time in another country where he is, now I am at home for 3 weeks, then I return, what do I do, do I speak, do I call, I just want to know why, then maybe I can move on.

Why do men do this, is it just a primitive game to them..... I am confused....... I feel raw and in pain.

[vashti]

Maybe he found out how much older you really are.

Anyway, with that large of an age gap, did you really expect a long term romance? Such a large gap is only conducive to a romantic fling, IMO.

[WICKED THOUGHTS]

Ahhh, not all guys play. lol Ya, well.. u are older then him.. but, age is only a number. imo Well, hopefully his ok, though. nway.. hope things wrkout.