God Designed Sex for Marriage

[sweetie_88]

I am a Christian and want everyone to know that up front. God made sex for marriage and it should be kept that way. So many teens and adults have sex before marriage and regret it later on. Besides guys want an innocent girl when they get married not one that has had sex before getting married to him right? Well trust me wether this describes you or your man that's just how i feel about it and hope to hear what you have to say about it soon!

[Clifton]

yes that would be nice, but realisticly asking for that in these times, a virgin to marry- would just be naive, its not going to happen for 90% of us, so we'll settle for someone whos not a complete whore haha. But, thats great that you think that way, most people around you age just dont think. Very honorable, and smart.

[sweetie_88]

I believe that it is harder these days to stay a virgin but I can promise you right now that I will stay a virgin until my honeymoon. But thanks for the nice comment that you made about me!

[Zekk_T_Strife]

I'm abstinate as well. However I'm not in the same mindset. To me sex is the physical expression of the deepest kind of love. Therefore instead of waiting until marriage I am waiting until I am in love. With the divorce rate in this country all marriage has become is paperwork and a tax break. I know it's a cynical way to look at it but I do feel there is something special in marriage. However I don't feel that we, as sexual creatures, need to deny our desires until the proper papers are filled out. I've been in love twice and was ready in both cases, but if one of the two girls I had fallen for before came onto me now I would walk away. It's a matter of principle, we're coming from the same place, we just have different criteria for when we decide to give that piece of ourselves to another.

[Clifton]

yea i beleive about the same thing as well, i think if you love someone, a peice of paper saying so-means little compared to the actual feelings and relationship

[sfalexi]

yea i beleive about the same thing as well, i think if you love someone, a peice of paper saying so-means little compared to the actual feelings and relationship

Exactly. I'm not gonna allow a stupid piece of paper dictate how/when I can express my feelings about another person.

[Zekk_T_Strife]

You know, I'm not so sure the topic "God designed sex for marriage" is accurate at all. Sex was designed for procreation.

[Fawn]

Sex was designed for procreation.

Technically thats true. If there was no sex, we would not be living right now. So it terms its something thats going to happen, no matter when we choose to do it.

I decided I didn't want to wait for marriage. That was my choice. I don't regret it and I will never regret it.

There is a bad thing about waiting till marriage. What happens if you end up getting married and then find out that your partner can not satisfy you sexually???

[sfalexi]

There is a bad thing about waiting till marriage. What happens if you end up getting married and then find out that your partner can not satisfy you sexually???

Well, technically, if you wait till marriage, you won't have any frame of reference so ANY sexual sensation (which most of us know that ANY of it feels better than nothing) will satisfy you. Cause you won't know what "satisfied" is.

What I would be worried about would be whether you're sexually "compatible" or not. For instance, I'm a virgin. And I'm not QUITE sure about what I'd like as far as sex goes (although I have my fantasies and ideas), but lets take these scenarios/examples.

1. Lets say I wait till marriage. And I find a girl that's a conservative virgin who waited for me too. YIPPEE!!! We're married now! Wedding night comes around, and she lays there like a slug while I do my thing. A week later, she's still just laying there. Maybe putting her arms around me, but nothing more. Now all my life I've had dreams about different positions, different places (shower, kitchen, etc) but NOW I find out that in her mind she thinks that doing it someplace OTHER than a bed is dirty and she thinks that any other position than missionary is crude and being a conservative girl she yells at me for wanting to convert her to a 'porn star'. Wow. That really ****in' sucks for me now, doesn't it?

2. Found a virgin, WHOOPEE!!!! We're married! Marriage night she pulls out a whip saying, "I've been waiting and waiting for this night to come around." Oh shit! I convince her not to use it. Weeks later, she's forced me to visit tons of sex shops and does nothing but PLEAD for latex outfits, butt plugs (cause after we were married she experimented with this stuff now that it's "ok" and found out she really likes them and wants me to like them too), studded paddles, etc. Jesus. I'm ****ed now.

3. Found a virgin. HOORAY!!!! We're married! Wedding night, everything's great. Three times that night, each longer than the first. Next night in the shower, reverse cowboy, sexy lingerie, the works. Awesome. Honeymoon's over, and now so's the sex. Now I find out that, "Yeah", she likes it, but just isn't into it as much as I am. She's satisfied with once a week or every other week. I'm looking for two or three a week. Shit. In order to do it you need TWO people willing, right? So now if I want it I have to beg and plead, or grab a jar of vaseline and just imagine what the night one week from this upcoming Sunday is going to be like.

4. Found a virgin. WOOHOO!!! We're married! We have sex. She loves it. She loves variety. She loves testing out new things! Everything's GREAT. But she can't get enough. Suddenly, she starts buying all this porn. Not so bad. That's cool. But that's not enough. Now she's fantasizing about the guy she saw at the waterpark the other day while masterbating. Ok. I don't know what she's thinking so that's cool. Truth be told, maybe I fantasized about a girl I saw at the same water park one day myself. No biggie. Next thing you know, she knows the mailman on a first name basis. I work a 9 - 5 shift and someone tells me that lately there's been a blue Nissan Altima parked at my house every day around one PM. Turns out she liked sex so much, she REGRETS not doing it earlier and now wants to know what other people feel like, how OTHER people act, how OTHER people are. But she's married so she has to do it 'secretly'. Great. Now I'm in a pickle.

5. Found a girl, she's not a virgin. It was a date-rape situation and she was lucky not to have gotten pregnant. THat's understandble, so I don't judge her against it. SWEET!!!! We're married. I have sex. Now I'm HIV positive. Which I would've had her checked for should we have been having sex before marriage. And which SHE should've checked for, but the shock/shame of the rape was enough for her and she kept it a secret and told ONLY her family and never thought about it again. But since sex was never an issue, why would I have thought to check for STDs? That's not why I marry someone. I marry cause I love. STDs are only to be watched for having sex, not for marriage. Shit. Now I'm REALLY ****ed.

Just a few to think about.

Alexi

[Clifton]

by the way, any man can satisfy any woman sexually, its just a matter of patience, most orgasms are clitoral anyway, and if theyre vaginal, there is 2 spots, so if the guy had a small dick, instead of trying to tap the cervix, he could just hit the g-spot, which is only 2inches deep in the pussy, so really, its just a matter of patience when it comes to that Fawn, and besides, say a guy really couldnt make you cum when ****ing, guess what? teach him to give head and your straight, me however, ill stick to trying to hit the cervix then g-spot then cervix, all the while rubbing the clit, i swear its so funny sometimes, ill be thinking in my head, about rubbing my stomach and patting my head at the same time, it just takes so much coordination!!!

[sfalexi]

BTW,

I'm pretty sure that "giving head" is just for guys. Referring to the 'head' of the penus. I believe "give you oral" would be more appropriate for a woman.

Alexi

[Clifton]

ah on the contrary, its called giving head, because your using your head-which is why it works both ways alexi!!!

[Zekk_T_Strife]

It can be used both ways however it isn't often used for guys doing it to girls. In that scenario it's more common to hear "going down on her" or "eating her out".

[Breezy18]

OMG Alexi! Seriously, you should take up writing! Those were some very interesting scenarios!

Well, technically, if you wait till marriage, you won't have any frame of reference so ANY sexual sensation (which most of us know that ANY of it feels better than nothing) will satisfy you. Cause you won't know what "satisfied" is.
Alexi

He's right. My husband was my first and last until the day we were divorced. I had no idea how mediocre our sex life was until I did it with someone else. I TOO believe it's something special that should be saved for someone you love, but don't necessarily believe that you need or should be married.

[m0by]

No, no, no. You're all missing the point. In Beth's (sweetie 88) point of view is that she is a Christian. Therefore, her religion is telling her to use sex as only means of reproducing, not taking pleasure in it, and AFTER the marriage at that.