How to Witness the Creation of the Universe During Sexual Intercourse
First off, intimacy. You have to make sure you are with someone who you can tell your deepest secrets, admit your most shameful acts, and share your most intimate perceptions. Can you normally talk together about love, madness, god and death without awkwardness and missed-cues? Also, are you comfortable naked together? You have to be sure of intimacy because you are going to dive right into another's psyche, and you have to be sure you can breathe in there.
Next, surrender. The man has to abandon himself to the beauty of the woman, and the woman to the authority of the man, and both to what is going on right now, and not a mental-emotional reaction to it. Beauty isn't usual fertility-beauty, but an alluring yet almost disturbing mysteriousness. And authority isn't usual technical-authority either, but a selfless artistic confidence. This sensuous attention is hard to experience in sex if it is foreign to every-day experience.
Next, totality. Every single part of the body must be inhabited. There must be sensation everywhere, not just in the cock and cunt. By placing attention on as much of the body as possible, and the good feelings inside, one leaves the mechanical and reactive mental-emotional porn-story and enters the what-is.
Next, authenticity. Nothing learned, studied or practised. Most mean learn at some point how to technically bring a woman to orgasm, and most women learn to grind away like a porn star. None of that: Innocent, spontaneous, and here-and-now. If one spots the other in their own little mechanical world, they have to say something, and work to come back together, looking again adoringly and consciously in each others eyes, talking softly perhaps.
Intimacy, surrender, totality and authenticity take two people, together, into the secret experience of what reality really is. It is like holding hands and dying together - not into another marvellous place or time, but into a different experience of time and space; that which existed before time and space - the universe - began.