what do you guys do when you're missing someone terribly?

[Hope]

Hey loveforum people yeah i havent posted here for so long, but i guess ive been reading the posts here quite frequently. and some of them really do help =)

just an update, if you guys remember, im the one with the story posted on 'doomed-from-the-start online rships'. haha which is super embarassing. Actually i think ive been improving quite a lot. Been hanging out with friends, socializing and stuff. But what is tearing me apart is that, i'll be surrounded by friends and family in the day, but when night time comes thoughts of him still fill my mind probably cause i've gotten used to talking to him all these years. im ashamed to say that ive broken the no contact rule several times but i guess ive been trying hard to just let it go. i really miss him what do i do when that feeling comes?

[The Godfather]

Well I could give you the usual advice. Get a new hobby, work on your career, make new friends, blah blah blah blah blah... it's good advice. It really is. But for most people it's not enough.

Are you a reader? When I got a divorce someone recommended "How to Fall Out of Love" by Dr. Debora Phillips. It really focuses on how to shut off that part of your brain that races at night or when you're alone, and help you stop thinking about them, or at the very least think about them differently.

[lastwish]

I just get myself angry. That really motivates me to stay away.

[Tug]

I've said this before and I'll say it again, the heart wants what it wants. You need to be strong enough to not contact the other person no matter how strong your feelings are and as time goes on the need to make contact will become less and less intense till one day that need that about drove you mad will no longer exist.

[spiri]

sounds nice, don`t contact her, well sometimes that tought is not enough, i hate to see me like this tonlight, `im angry, hate everything, hate this situation, hate all girls, hate all.
why does it have to be this hard? i try to get out with my friends, to laugh, to have some quality time, nothing works, i hate this days, i want to be the same , to be happy, to smile to whom ever coses my path, to fell the love, for some this is very easy, never feelt this shit in theyr entyre life.
I wantto screem in her ears i love you!! instead i drink a beer and lsiten to sad music...

[D-Nice]

I would advise writing. When the temptation to contact him arises, just write down everything you would wish to say to him. Whether it's how angry you are, how everything's been going with you... just write it. It's temporary, but it definitely, definitely helps. Reading everything back will help those questions in the back of your mind make a lot of sense to you and you'll be able to get through the night at the very least.

Good luck.

[Tug]

When I feel like contacting my g/f I come here and try to help others be strong and move on with their lives. I not only feel better trying to help others but it passes the time and it helps me keep things in perspective.

[Lonely Island]

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[letkhu]

Try do something that makes you forget him on night.. try to watch videos or chat with other online friends on net... Just make yourself happy and try to survive without him..

[Vilenanova]

The best cure is to treat the Thing with the same Thing (or like with the like, whichever you prefer). Get a new date already!

[Aeradalia]

Stop focusing on 'not focusing' on them being gone. If you keep looking for that moment you aren't thinking about them anymore... then you will never get over them.

Take a chance... try to find the good things about your new found freedom. Do some things you have been wanting to do... but relationship constraints or time constraints kept you from doing. Make this into as much of a positive experience as you can. Go to a park, hang out with friends, invite someone to a restaurant you've been curious about, drive around town just for sight-seeing, take up a new hobby, reconnect with old friends you haven't heard from in years... whatever you do, do something new and different.

Rearrange your bedroom... so that part of the familiarity will disappear. Move your bed to a different location --- enjoy the bit of disorientation in the morning. The reminder that things are different, but it isn't necessarily a bad thing. Pile the pillows close to you... they will provide the comfort you seek as you sleep.

Everything has changed for you now... stop pining for the old and embrace the change. The world hasn't changed... good things can still be found... but you'll miss such opportunities if you keep yourself occupied with what once was. As they say --- there isn't any future in the past.

[12many]

me?? i smoke and listen to blueberry yum yum by ludacris =). i know its bad but it REAALLY works.

[Volk]

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lol.
Your answers are short and to the point! I like them!

If you really miss him, I guess you may have already done this, but weigh up if you could change the reason you broke up in yourself. If you were too 'X' could you change that about yourself?
If whatever it is is something you could change, you need to show him that in some way, and become something he wants.

[Bennyzilla]

Just do something to better yourself- Read a book- Work out- Whatever, just stop contacting him.

Seriously stop it.

[finnman]

i really miss him what do i do when that feeling comes?

I write. Then I write more. Then I scream (chaoscalledlove.com). I can't say it always helps but at least the emotion is expelled and the self-deception that so often comes from relationships is avoided. You can't run from the feelings as they will find you. You must fight them on their own terms and only you can determine what that is.