Addiction to Affection

[Zekk_T_Strife]

I realized this last night but I think I may be addicted to affection. Let me know if any of you agree that this could be the signs of an actual need or if anyone has felt anything similar:

My best friend for around 7 years and I hung out last night (the girl I have a picutre of in my gallery). We hadn't talked for a while so it was great to see her again. Well it didn't take long until we were acting just as close as we always do. It amuses me really that guys won't make a move on her because it really does look like we're newlyweds sans the kisses. Anyway, whenever we're together we're CONSTANTLY touching. Either hugs, petting each others heads, walking arm in arm or just holding one another.

I've also noticed that sometimes I'll just be sitting minding my own business and all of a sudden begin to crave affection. I'll feel cold or alone and just want someone to hold onto. Does it make sense that since we were inseperable all during high school and the first year of college (5 years of ALWAYS being together) that I got so used to it that I don't feel right without it? Could it really be an addiction of sorts?

Just curious as to what you all feel about the matter.

[blue_moon2]

hey thats soooo usual! I have a friend I have known for 5 years and when ever i see him i just want to hug him..and im just constantly hugging giving him lill hugs...

i miss him now im at university

i wanna hug

[TAVS]

Sounds about right to me. It's driving me crazy, especially today, not being able to hug my girl sitting just five feet away from me. The only thing keeping me sane is the cube wall between us (although I was cursing it this morning). Now I'm dwelling (not too bad) on the fact that she's going away for 6 days next week and I won't get any hugs the whole time. What a jip.

[Tone]

Yup! You're normal, I'm the same way, very touchy feely, very affectionate.

[TAVS]

Hey Tone, wanna hug?

[Asip4u]

Bunch a pussies...j/k...Yea i totally understand dude...same here.

[Tone]

Sure, thanks bud!

Hey TAVS, want a back rub?

[shh!]

Zekk - maybe you LIKE like her... (if you know what I mean). Lots of good relationships start as plutonic friendships.

[whaywardj]

Gad. Just how much latent gayness IS there on this board?!

[Asip4u]

Gad. Just how much latent gayness IS there on this board?!

Hayward you need a hug too now?

[blue_moon2]

*group hug*

[Late_vamp]

Hayward you need a hug too now?

i think Hayward needs many hugs by lots of ppl . anyways ...

damn , i thought i was the only one , i miss my girl's hugs ... and more .

[Mish]

I've also noticed that sometimes I'll just be sitting minding my own business and all of a sudden begin to crave affection. I'll feel cold or alone and just want someone to hold onto. Does it make sense that since we were inseperable all during high school and the first year of college (5 years of ALWAYS being together) that I got so used to it that I don't feel right without it?

I'm having trouble following here, are you talking about affection in general (I.e. you need affection from anyone) or you're talking about personalized affection (I.e. from one person in particular - your girl).

Because the answer will differ based on your response...

[Zekk_T_Strife]

Mish - I'm talking about getting so used to getting affection from her that when it's lacking I feel as though there's a particular essential need not being met. It doesn't necessarily mean I need that affection from her but it becomes something I get used to and then it's gone.

Shh! - I'm well aware I like this girl. I can recall professing my undying love for the poor girl on three seperate occasions. It's one of those common situations where she would rather keep our friendship as it is. I haven't fallen for her a fourth time but I do enjoy being around her more than I can articulate to you. Something just feels....right when I'm with her, almost as though we were meant to be in one anothers arms.

I won't continue with the sappy talk, just wanted to see how common that sort of feeling was with everyone else on the boards. Maybe I'm feeling a bit lovesick, it's getting closer to winter and that seems to happen around this time of year when the flora begins to die and the world appears desolate, lonely, and heartbreakingly beautiful.

[Only-virgins]

Do all people crave such affection? Does everyone hunger for the touch of another human being? I am not sure. I some times think about it but I dont know if I crave it. All I know for sure is that the lack of it doesn't kill you because I am still alive. So dont worry if you don't have it.