My Ex got back in touch with me last week.... just two weeks after we last spoke and just two weeks after she had decided to enter into a new relationship!
This new relationship seems to be based on a poor foundation.... she actually met him before me (one date) but made the choice to start a new relationship with me instead. He then went back to his ex girlfriend who he had been with for a total time of 2.5 years before they split up again leaving him with some issues. Now he and my ex are together although the first few weeks were spent just as friends and as a shoulder for each other to cry on with nothing physical happening between them until later. It just doesn't seem to be a very good base to start with at all to me... and two weeks later she gets back in touch!
I know I'm babbling but this is the history which I guess you need to know... just so you know I always looked after my ex really well and provided her with support... we always used to go out and do stuff together at every opportunity - I don't feel she is getting this from her new boyfriend.
Anyway, she used a rubbish excuse to text me on the Tuesday to which I replied with a simple cool answer... then on the Thursday it was a full on computer conversation (messenger) that she again started - this is how it went.
The conversation started with her enquiring about my love life several times and she was full of praise... saying that it wouldn't be long until I had been snapped up etc. I said that I wasn't with anyone but had been dating etc... I said I needed time out. Anyway the conversation moved on and we were able to chat like old friends for a bit... she mentioned about me popping over her way to show her my new car when I get it etc... I later asked if she fancied popping over my way to which she complained that she had no money in which to make plans like that...
At this point I asked if her new boyfriend was supporting her and her response was a little defensive while also seemingly an attempt to make me jealous stating that he had said he would look after her and treat her like a princess! I praised what he had said and said how good it was but then she seemed to retract... saying that she would see and that it was still early days.
Now earlier in the conversation she had said 'I haven't been out out in ages' - I'm wondering why is this the case? Surely he should be taking her out places and doing things with her - why did she say this?
I actually regret the remainder of the conversation... I told her how he was better for her than me (due to distance) and said things had worked out for the best. I also mentioned this girl I had been dating and my ex was clearly jealous by her replies...
It ended fine... I had to go out to a meeting and I cut it short - at the end of the conversation she said 'speak soon xx'. I feel that I have screwed things up further.... I don't feel she is getting everything she wants from him and came to me hoping to have a different chat than the one that actually took place. It has all become games and she is the kind of girl to play them... I don't know what to do really... should I contact her and ask directly if she is happy?
My friends think it is a good thing that she is jealous... they feel that this will make her want me again because she will fear losing me for good and she knows we had a great thing going - that much I know is certain... it was the distance that killed us.
I still have feelings for her... I don't know what to do really - should I contact her again or wait for her to get in touch with me?
Please offer your advice - I have no idea what is in her head!
Gavin