Saying Goodbye- GF does NOT want to say farewell at airport when she leaves for home.

[Quentin]

I have a GF I've been dating for about 5 months now. I guess you can say we've been pretty intimate, both physically and emotionally.

Of late, I suspected she was seeing another guy but wasn't sure until I checked her mobile when she went to the toliet. I saw on her outbox pictures of herself being sent to a male contact. They weren't pornographic in nature but it still disturbed me a little. She calls me less and less on the phone nowadays and now I don't know what to do.

However, what upsets me the most was when I asked if I could follow her to the airport to say farewell when she goes back to her home country, Indonesia, for good. She said :"No". She said that knowing she'll never come back to my country forever.

She gave me some crap reason that she came to my country alone and must leave alone. I asked her to tell me when she's going back and she said she's not too sure but she'll tell me when she knows. Her visa expires within 7 months so it has to be before that, although she can leave anytime she likes now.

I'm most afraid that she'll say goodbye at the airport to another guy. There's nothing I can do but the idea of it is most hurting and crushing. I mean, if it wasn't another guy, why would she NOT want to say farewell to me at the airport?

I'll need all the advice and suggestions I can get. Thanks guys.

[funsounds]

there's nothing to be done. i mean, you can't INSIST on being there to say goodbye. and you really don't wanna end this with some fight about another guy, do you?

treat it for what it is...you had 5 months together, almost all of which was probably wonderful. just leave it at that. there's no sense in getting upset over this.

[Illusional]

well it seems that she has already accepted the fact that you're both over. she's not returning ever, and she doesn't want you to see her off at the airport. if she's not being blunt about it being over, i dunno what else to tell you. move on and cut your losses while you're still ahead.

raverboy

[Quentin]

Thing is, we still chat on the phone and hang out as usual. Only the frequency of which is gettting less and less.

I mean, we're still friends but is there any special reason for someone to not want to say farewell when she leaves forever, when currently there has been no major conflicts/arguments?

Is she acting tough by wanting to go through all this alone or will she be embarassed by the scene she KNOWS(crying, hugging tightly etc.) I'll make?

Or is it possible there will be someone ELSE at the airport saying goodbye to her?

[Late_vamp]

yes you can do something

dump her ass and save your dignity , have some cohones hombre .
just tell her "listen bitc h , i juss kno ur cheatin on me' , now juss kut the krap and tel me , at least have the decency to tel me the truth to my face when your about to leave . "

then before she replys
"whatever , juss foget about it ., you sucked in bed anyways " and walk away ... something like that so she will remeber that and it will come back evertime she wants to cheat on her future bfs now .

[Quentin]

So she's cheating on me for sure? There's no other reason why she wouldn't want me to say goodbye at the airport?

Guys, this is the most important question.

[mini696]

There are plenty of reasons.

[Chlorine]

Quentin----"So she's cheating on me for sure? There's no other reason why she wouldn't want me to say goodbye at the airport?"

Cheating? No comment.
However, she knows you're sweet on her, and she probably doesn't want to deal with it. No mushy good byes. No teary farewells. No lingering hugs with the eternal question of 'do you think we'll ever meet again?'. None of that.
That could be the reason why.

[funsounds]

So she's cheating on me for sure? There's no other reason why she wouldn't want me to say goodbye at the airport?

Guys, this is the most important question.

can't say for sure...that's something you gotta take up with her...

[TAVS]

Who cares? She's going to be out of your life anyway. Be smart and move on now; don't wait.

[funsounds]

i remember some real good advice someone posted a while ago for cheaters...


"kill them both...and eat them..."

[clynn]

Is she acting tough by wanting to go through all this alone or will she be embarassed by the scene she KNOWS(crying, hugging tightly etc.) I'll make?

I bet it is really unlikely that she is saying goodbye to someone else at the airport, very very unlikely.

HOWEVER - I for one don't like long goodbyes or teary farewells. Best to avoid them altogether.

There really is no reason for a dramatic goodbye. None at all. You've had a good time with her and now she is leaving.

You shouldn't take this too personally.

Truthfully, it is usually always a bit easier to the person leaving rather than to be the person left behind. You will still have all the memories around you to remind you of the good times you had together. She will be off in a completely different place and so it will be easier for her move on from your relationship.

So don't be too hard on yourself for feeling more pain from the impending separation than she does and will.

Hang on to you heart!

[xxwildchildxx]

Sounds like she lost interest. You deserve someone better. Let her go - good riddance I say.

[Chlorine]

xxwildchild-----"Let her go - good riddance I say."

In the words of Green Day:

"Good Riddance (Time Of Your Life)"
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go
So make the best of this test, and don't ask why
It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time
It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life.