My girlfriend and I have been together for more than a year now. Although our relationship became long distance since she had to move to Canada to study almost 3 months ago, everything was great between us and always has been. She’d call/txt me all the time, tells me how much she loves me and misses me, laughs at the jokes I say (even the stupid ones), up for making out or having sex any time, etc… However, the past month has been nothing but the complete opposite.
At that time, we had a fight, but it wasn’t a big deal (as with the case for almost all the fights we’ve had before). In any case, I apologized, and she accepted my apology. But since then, her attitude towards me changed drastically. Now she rarely calls me or texts me, and even when she does, it’s like someone has forced her to do it; completely unenthusiastic, it’s not like she’s talking to her boyfriend. She stopped telling me how much she loves me or misses me at all, and any stupid thing I say just makes her angry. Since the day she set off to Canada, I told her that I’m gonna visit her, and so I did 2 weeks ago. However, seeing how she changed, I asked her several times before I came whether if she still wants me to come or not, and she’d always reply with an attitude, saying “what do you think?!” I emphasized to her that this is a yes or no question, and eventually she said “yes.” I was still unsure about coming, but many of my friends and hers told me that once we see each other, everything’s gonna be different.
So that’s what I did, I went all the way to Canada from Holland to see her, and her attitude was THE SAME; no expression of any feelings towards me. She only hugged me when I first came (actually, it’s more like we both hugged each other), and that was it. She never approached me in any way. I’m always the one that is hugging her and kissing her. Even when we kissed, it’s like she’s not trying, and would last for no more than 5 seconds, where eventually she’d push me away. Of course, she refused to do anything beyond kissing with me, each time coming up with an excuse stupider than the one before (please keep in mind that we have lost our virginity together!)
Thus I waited a couple of days, convincing myself that maybe she’s stressed out from university or whatever, but still her attitude towards me was the same. I finally decided to talk to her about it. I told her pretty much everything I mentioned above, and how she’s changed and all that, but she didn’t respond. I know that she doesn’t like to be pressured onto answering stuff (that’s the way she is) but I thought that this is very important. I mean, I came all the way from Holland to see her, expecting our relationship to become stronger than ever, but all I get is the extreme opposite. After 2 days I got completely fed up, and gave her two choices; either that she agrees to do something about this since it’s really bothering me (at least reach to some sort of compromise), or I’ll leave. Again, she didn’t respond and I started packing my stuff. While I was at it, she started babbling a lot of stuff in the vein of that “people change.” I couldn’t care less about what she said because treating me like this isn’t OK just cause “she changed.” Hence I left the house, and surprisingly, she followed me telling me not to go. She wanted me to be cool for tonight, and that tomorrow she’s gonna change. Tomorrow came and nothing was different. I waited another couple of days, and opened the subject again telling her how her attitude towards me didn’t change at all. I told her I’m leaving but she also stopped me from going. She told me that everything will be back to normal, just give it time. Now I’m back to Holland, and have been here for 4 days. She only called me once for less than a minute just so she can check that I got back safely.
So, what do you guys thinks honestly? Shall I really just wait as she said, or is she trying to push me away from her little by little, so that we’ll eventually break up?
Really appreciate your help! Cheers!