Love's Reject view on life

[Kromat83]

Your name pretty sums up your approach to life.
Blaming others for your failures, just focus on your career instead of finding a woman, because if you do find one some day, she'll be happy that your ambitious and you get there before you find her, she won't have to worry about you be proud of yourself, because you put in all that effort to achieve.
She'll be there to support you, share in each others successes, and be glad that you found each other and that the search was worth it.
Anything in life is better when we get those opportunities that we didn't expect and when they pay off, they are the happiest days of our lives.
Before this year, suicide was on my mind, but to not make that a reality I looked hard into myself and decided I needed to change the way I thought and it wasn't to be negative about any situation and be glad that I was willing to put my past failures aside, so that I can have a better future.
My ambitions about finishing real estate and staying optimistic showed others that I was striving to succeed and no one was standing in my way to a achieve those goals.
I might have broken up with my last girlfriend, but she helped me realized what type of person I could be and I thank her for that.
I might have some more opportunities with dates, and they can see why I am the type of person that people want to be around.
Look hard to make changes for yourself and not for others.

[Love'sReject]

I've made changes for myself and not for others and that hasn't really changed much. The irony in my self-improvement is that I am even worse with girls than ever. My vision of the future has me as an old man, who's never had sex which is huge because I am fixated with death, old age and the quality of life, and before that, high school reunion where I might have a decent job that I like but those douchebags who did horrid things to me have it way better and all married hot chicks so that there's no real sense of justice after all that, and then even before that, within the next few years everybody will have had sex and dated and hell, they're beginning to marry right now so I'll be the very odd guy out and some will ask "What's wrong with him?" but not too many 'cuz I was never important enough to speculate about or even be known.

I appreciate the thought. Sometimes I come off real bad or as "whiny" or NPD.one thing I think should be cleared up, though, is that I don't really fault everyone else. Genetics is mostly responsible for my inability to socialize or find a girl.

[bearz]

Stop caring so much about what others might think of you. They don't think of you as a loser unless you tell them all this crap. And guess what, about half of those people who marry now will have a divorce a few years down the road because they jumped into something they knew nothing about and made irrational choices. Plus why do you care what these people do? You already said they are douche bags, stop caring about them already. Only because they have a girl that sucks their dick doesn't mean they are a better human being than you.

[Love'sReject]

Yeah, but if I somehow got into an argument with them, they will automatically win when they say they can get girls and I can't. That's like the most common burn in arguments. I think after that is job or money.

[bearz]

Yeah, but if I somehow got into an argument with them, they will automatically win when they say they can get girls and I can't. That's like the most common burn in arguments. I think after that is job or money.

That's very childish behavior, why would you even get into an argument like that? Wtf!

[basilandthyme]

Why do you feel the need to argue with people?

[Love'sReject]

I don't know the psychological root of my need to argue.

[Love'sReject]

That's very childish behavior, why would you even get into an argument like that? Wtf!

That's how it goes in the adult world. They think because they're a certain age or past one that no matter what they do, they're adults.

[bearz]

That's how it goes in the adult world. They think because they're a certain age or past one that no matter what they do, they're adults.

You're just talking about people who haven't grown up yet, which are the people I avoid like the plague.

[Love'sReject]

Maybe I've seen too many movies. If I were a director like I had hoped to be, I definitely know the essence of drama and could tell many a good story.

Anyway, it didn't really become obvious to me that I'd never have sex or have a relationship again until the day I broke up with my only g/f. It wasn't even some shocking epiphany; it just became so obvious.

[basilandthyme]

I don't know the psychological root of my need to argue.

So, what do you get out of it? There must be some positive feedback for you to continue with the behaviour.

[Love'sReject]

Not really; I suck at arguing and even though I know what I feel is probably right, it just doesn't come out as a solid, well-thought out argument even if I think it out as hard as possible and the opportunity goes by.

[basilandthyme]

So what stuff do you argue over? And why do you hang out with people who you argue with? Do they even want you around?

[Love'sReject]

Oh, I don't really hang out with anyone anymore. But we didn't really argue when I used to hang out with 'em.

[basilandthyme]

Oh, I don't really hang out with anyone anymore. But we didn't really argue when I used to hang out with 'em.

If you didn't really argue...then you're just making stuff up about how they win arguments?