Ok men, how do I get his attention?

[KyleeDanyell]

We've been dating for three years and the spark is gone 😩 Or barely there anyways. How do I get his attention without just jumping him...I don't want to be so blunt, I want to really turn him on like I used to but now it seems I have to really work for it I'll do anything at this point!! :/

Gentlemen, what should I do?

[melancholia]

So has sex become boring for you two, or has it cooled off and become less frequent than when you first got together? Both situations are totally normal for long term relationships, but you didn't offer much detail in your OP. What is wrong with just jumping him? Are you having difficulty getting turned on, or is he not initiating sex enough, or what? There are SO many ways you can improve your sex life, but it would be helpful to have more details from you before offering ideas of how you can solve the problem. What options have you tried to spice things up that haven't worked? What did you used to do in the past that did work to spice things up?