Head over heels with an old flame

[hopeless419]

Here goes nothin'. I met a girl five years ago. She was crazy about me, but she was 14 and I was 19, so, naturally, I wouldn't lay a finger on her. I hadn't seen her in five years when I discover that she works across the street from my work. I walk in and we both stare for a few seconds, chat, then she gives me her number and tells me to call her. I find out that she has a boyfriend, but they've only been dating a few weeks or so. She confesses to me that when she saw me again, all of her old feelings came rushing back. Since we've been talking and visiting, she's made me feel like I've never felt. She makes me feel cared about and important. She said that she wants to even things out with her boyfriend before jumping into anything with me, because, I guess they don't get along too good anymore. Tonight, she told me that she was going too see him and she figured that things would get ugly with him, and if they did, she'd call me and have me come pick her up. Now, I am wide awake at 1 A.M. and all I can think about is her. I close my eyes and I see her face. I smell her in the air. She has made comment to the effect that she sees me as a serious possibility in her life, and when she hugs me, there's something there that I've never felt before. She told me one night that she wanted to kiss me, but it would be cheating if the lips touched. Then she kissed me on the cheek. I am absolutely in love with this girl and I would give her everything in the world. When I try to sleep, all I can think about is how bad I want her there with me. Should I, even though I think she knows already, tell her exactly how I feel, or will that possibly scare her away? Should I stop calling her and let her call me, or should I call her to show persistence? She's an awesome girl, and I don't want to annoy her, but I also don't want to stand by while her boyfriend sweet talks her into staying in an abusive relationship. Help!

[Hart of Gold 22]

personally, i think you should just tell her how you feel.
plus, if she's in an abusive relationship, and she feels for you the way you feel about her, then you have nearly every right to sweep her off her feet.
you sound like a really nice guy, and i really hope everything works out for you.

keep calling her, and just be there for her, because that's what she'll remember. she'll thank you for giving her a shoulder to cry on.

[Only-virgins]

You fall for a girl years ago and then your find her again? ...oh im so sorry..thats so terrible your really need advice. I mean....who could have it worse then that?.

[hopeless419]

What's the best way to "sweep her off her feet" while not seeming too intrusive or pushy?

[Only-virgins]

Whats wrong with being intrusive and pushy?...bah..

[hopeless419]

okay, then, what's the best way period?

[Only-virgins]

okay, then, what's the best way period?

Why dont you just tell her how you felt back then and that you still have feelings?..Shouldnt it just be smooth sailing after that?

[hopeless419]

I sure hope so... that almost seems like my only option.

[Asip4u]

Why dont you just tell her how you felt back then and that you still have feelings?..Shouldnt it just be smooth sailing after that?

---I agree with this post------

OV, this is the first one i think..lol

[Only-virgins]

I sure hope so... that almost seems like my only option.

Then go for it. I went for it but got no answer but offcourse life loooooves to screw me just because I am me. Good luck though.

[Only-virgins]

OV, this is the first one i think..

thats not a good sign. Not agreeing with me alot means that you are wrong alot....lol...

[hopeless419]

Thanks a bunch.

[hopeless419]

Should I wait for her to make the first move, or should I? Because I can be rather spontaneous sometimes. Should I go with it?

[Hart of Gold 22]

make the first move yourself. it will assure her that you will take care of her.
it will put her to ease.

[hopeless419]

Should it be done in words or something like a kiss and a confession?