i'm glad that you're starting to realize that this relationship might be more problematic that it seems to be worth. that is the first step. secondly, i will admit that this will be hard on the children but it's not their fault, nor yours. your husband doesnt' want to take resonsibility and be the father that he should be, and i feel this is very wrong. he is only considering his own feeling and being childish. i know you might be scared to be by yourself but you shouldn't. being independent and standing up for yourself is better off then living with all these problems and taking all his crap. raverboy
...this is just my perspective on the situation...