25-year old brother marrying too soon

[Mr.grownup]

I’m a man who has always been on the look-out for my family. Growing up, I was always asked to be responsible for my siblings (younger brother and sister.) This is why I still feel responsible for their choices even when we’re all grown ups now. Right now, my brother is causing me heavy dilemma. He says he’s planning on proposing to his girlfriend when she visits us next month. They met on some dating tours he attended last year. I thought it his relationship with her was some child’s play or something. Apparently, he’s really serious about her. I don’t think this is a good idea.

He’s still 24 with a lot of promising things ahead of him. I think settling down will just anchor him down. I’ve seen this before with our parents. They got married right after college and divorced fifteen years later. They’ve put their 12, 10, and 9-year old children to the struggles of growing up in a broken home. I don’t want him making the same mistake as our parents. Am I wrong for thinking such?

[canadaman816]

I think it's very responsible of you to be looking out for your brother. I can't speak for the maturity or decisions of your brother, but marriage is a huge step to take, and there are many things for a person to take into consideration. Could you possibly talk to your brother one-on-one some time and express your concerns gently? Or ask him more questions so you can get a better idea of why he wants to be married, and whether the foundation seems solid? My older brother sat me down to question me when I was about to propose to my now-wife, and looking back, I genuinely appreciate his concern for me.