Am I too superficial?

[Thisiswilli]

Hi everybody,

So here's my point : I've been dating this girl for the past 5 months everything has been great since. When I met her, she told me she wanted to be a psychologist, and I thought this is really great. But the only problem is that she recently started taking a formation to work in a summer camp. She even thinks she wants to work in that field later instead. I am personally in a police technology program, and I just feel shy to tell people that my girlfriend wants to work in a summer camp for the rest of her life. Am I being too superficial?

Please don't judge me.

Thanks.

William

[tremolo]

Some people might say so, but I would probably have the same problem if that was my boyfriend's occupation.

Basically, you have to decide whether you can live with that, or whether it's time to move on...

[vashti]

Most people with psychology degrees don't work in that field, anyway. To me, both are "light" majors, unless she is motivated to get a Master's degree. So to me, one is as good as the other.

[tremolo]

Yeah, but I think 'psychologist' carries a little more weight than 'summer camp counselor' or whatever.

[vashti]

I agree, except you aren't a psychologist without a master's degree. That's why I said "unless she is motivated to get her Master's degree".

[tremolo]

Oh right. Yeah, that's true... good point.

[leoben]

I could get this if you were a doctor or lawyer, but I wouldn't wonder what a cop was doing with a girl who worked with kids for a living. The uniform is cool and it can be a noble profession but it isn't rocket science. She isn't that much beneath you on the totem pole.

Gotta do whatever makes you happy in the end though.

[pisces25]

I could get this if you were a doctor or lawyer, but I wouldn't wonder what a cop was doing with a girl who worked with kids for a living. The uniform is cool and it can be a noble profession but it isn't rocket science. She isn't that much beneath you on the totem poll.

Gotta do whatever makes you happy in the end though.

I agree and in fact if someone I was dating wanted to work with children and make a difference to their lives I think that is extremely attractive and makes a change from someone only wanting a job to make money.

[kinks]

Well... yeah... I mean a job's a job.

I'm currently studying medicine at uni, but my bf is a full time security guard (in his spare time he makes music, but obviously he'd like to afford to do it full time) Sometimes people react weirdly saying I can do better or whatever, but at the end of the day he makes me happy, so why should I let careers affect me. If youlike the girl it shouldn't really bother you too much, I's say yeah you are being a bit superficial.

[Ric]

As long as she is doing something she likes, who cares? That's what's the most important part.
She might be able to have a "more respectable" profession that makes more money, but if that makes her come home feeling like shit every day, that wouldn't be very beneficial.

So, yes, I would say it's superficial. In the end, a happy girl will be a lot more fun than one that just does a job she doesn't enjoy all that much. Everyone has their own passion.

[Kyrina]

1 Does it make her happy
2 Does she forget about you and pay you no attention
3 does it bring in money
if yes to all 3 then you need to address 2 but if the answer to 2 is no then why the hell should it matter to you what job she has as long as she has time for you it shouldnt make a difference at all
Yes you are being superifical her job shouldnt matter she isnt doing anything wrong.

[fun2bwith45]

maybe talk to her about ambitions? to make sure she is doing what she really wants and not sacrificing due to money problems or something