So.. What does girls like to hear in bed?

[dogmax]

I've got 2 questions hehe

1)
Talking to each other while making love really turns me on. Ofcourse not about everyday things, but "bad" stuff ya know .
Of obvious reasons, mostly women and men don't like to hear the same stuff in bed. And I don't know what to say to my girlfriend, while making love this really bugs me.
I really hope that anyone could give some pointers of what i could say to a woman in bed, I'd buy you something nice , if we overlook the fact that I'm currently broke haha , but i suppose "thanks" won't let you buy much from the grocerer

2) What music do you listen to when you're doing it with your GF?
Personally i listen to some Oasis and what sounds like it, because it's not slow, but nor heavy. What do you do? Do you even put on music?

[vashti]

Not everyone wants to hear their partner blabbing on in bed. It can be distracting for women, who have to concentrate more deeply to have an orgasm. Of course, everyone is different.

[Dasein]

This reminds me of that episode of Sex and the City where Miranda is uncomfortable with her new man wanting her to dirty talk in bed...eventually she says "You love it when I stick my finger in your ass'. He gets immediately angry and runs off.

[Junket]

I say something along the lines of:

"grunt".

[Indignant]

i am very vocal and love when my partner is as well. but talking though... unless i or he tell each other to change a position. or tell me how much he likes this or that...or to tell me how wet or awesome or tight i am...and i'd respond with how deep or fast i want him at that point in time. now that is talking...

[DoesntMatter]

Talk to her about the weather

[Indus18]

It depends on the girl, day, mood, etc, doesn't it?

Sometimes a girl only wants to hear or say very sweet, romantic things.

Sometimes she doesn't want to hear or say almost anything. Can make things more primal, or more romantic..

Sometimes she wants to hear really dirty, descriptive things. (I'm partial to this one, but am cool with the other two as well)

I don't know any girl that wouldn't be open to the first 2, although silence isn't good if you're new to one another, or new to sex. As far as the third one goes, some really conservative girls aren't too into it, but eventually, they all come around.

In the same vein, with dirty talk, I have yet to encounter a girl that seems like she'd want vulgar, derogatory talk like you'd see in porno. It's more like talking about what parts of her body turn you on, what you want to/are going to do to her, etc.

Music also totally depends on the mood and the person. I coudln't really tell you... The only girl who i've consistently slept w/ long enough to determine a type of music she likes more than anything else in bed is a girl who liked R&B type stuff. But you know, I have varied taste, and am sure there are girls who like really heavy beat stuff, and really light romantic stuff like barry manilow, marvin gaye, etc. So, in short, get to know your woman, and it'll all come together: in more ways than one! Good Luck!

[Gribble]

One of my girlfriends really loved it when I spoke to her in a deep and forceful voice. She always wanted me to tell her what to do. For example, I'd demand that she take off her clothes or get onto her back and then she'd be absolutely dripping.

Me? I like it when a pretty and otherwise well-mannered woman cusses like a sailor during sex. The more obscenities the better. And I like for her to antagonize me a little bit. Just enough to motivate me. There's nothing on this planet that turns me on more than sex intermingled with just a pinch of aggression. Mmm. I want my woman to drag her nails on my skin and bite my neck, and then I want her to look me in the eye and ask, "Is that the best you can do?" Followed, naturally, by a long and drawn out moan as I up the tempo.

[lesa]

If you cannot speak in a deep, sweet and seductive whisper then don't bother saying anything but:

If U're 18 and over, come here
I got something 4 your mind
(Come)
U should do that baby
No more will U cry
(Come)
The spirit is calling
Here's a reason why
(Come)
If U had a chance 2 see the future would U try?
(Come)
If U will, so will I

(Come)
When I call U up, I wanna tell U what 2 wear
(Come)
Don't be surprised if I tell U 2 go bare
(Come)
Long as U wash between your soul and through your hair (I'm gonna do it)
(Come)
I'll do my duty there

(Come)
U should do that baby
No more will U cry
(Come)
The spirit's calling
Here's a reason why
If U had a chance (come) 2 see the future would U try?
(If U had a chance 2 see the future would U try?)
(Come)
If U will, so will I
(If U will, so will I)

(Come)
(When U) When I lay U down I'm gonna tell U what 2 feel
(Come)
(Don't U) Don't be surprised if I make U my daily meal
(Come)
(Lickin' U inside) Lickin' U inside, outside
(Outside) All sides (All sides), up and down (up and down)
(Come)
With my tongue in the crease, baby I go 'round
When I go down, down, down, (Come) down, down, down, da-da-down
(When I do, no more)
No more will U cry
(Come)
Spirit's calling
Here's a reason why
(Come)
If U had the chance 2 see the future would U try?
(If U had the chance 2 see the future would U try?)
(Come)
If U will, so will I
(If U will, so will I)
So will I

(Come)
U should do that baby
U should do that girl
(Come)
(Come)
U should do that baby
(Come)
(Come)
U should do that girl

(Come)
When I suck U there
I don't wanna hear U scream (Don't wanna hear U scream)
(Come)
Don't talk or breathe
Don't cough or sneeze
Oh, just dream, dream, dream
Baby, my tongue's gonna do things that U never seen (Seen)

(Come)
(When I) When I blow that mind baby
(Come)
I'm gonna drive U crazy
(Come)

U should do that girl (No more will U cry)
(Come)
U should do that baby (Here's a reason why)
(Come)
(If U had the chance 2 see the future would U try?)
{do that girl, do that girl}
(Come)
U should do that baby (If U will, so will I)
(Come on, come on, come on)
(No more will U cry)
(Come)
(Here's a reason why)
(Come)
(If U had the chance 2 see the future would U try?)
(Come)
(If U will so will I)
Now break it down

(Come)
(Come)
(When I blow that mind baby)
(Come)
(I'm gonna drive U crazy)
(Come)

Can I suck U baby?
(Come)
Can I fcuk U baby?
(Come)
I wanna suck U baby
(Come)

Shout it (Come) ou-ou-out
(No more will U cry)
(Come)
(Here's a reason why)
(Come)
And if U had a chance 2 see the future would U try?
Oh, (Come)
If U will, (So will I) if U will, so will I (So will I)

Like a (Come) splendid, open ended
Celibate friend (No more will U cry), pretending
Not 2 know (Come) it (know it) when I blow it (blow it)
In your eyes (Here's a reason why)
Like a strawberry (Come), chocolate
Fender jazz, mashed potato, fuzztone (Come)
All over your thighs

Oh baby
That's the only (Come) Come I know
When I'm deep inside that
Yeah, that's the only (Come) time
The only time U go
"Ooh, baby U're so good"
"Ooh, baby U're so good"
Aw, shut up (Come)
This is just so U Come
Come
Come
No more will U cry

It's no wonder there's a puddle there
Holding it in 4 so long
U know U can let it go
It won't be wrong
(Come)
It's just U and me baby
Tonight and 4ever more
(Come)
U should do that baby
fcuk it
On the floor
(Come)

Or better yet, why don't U do it on the chair?
(Come)
U should get that shit started
U can change your underwear
(Come)
Yeah, U can always change your underwear
(Come)

It don't mean your rep cuz U kiss in a restaurant
(Come)
It don't mean your rep just cuz me tallywhacker suckin' is all U want
(Come)
All it means it that the 1 that Come before me never made U Come
U should do that baby
(Come)

Should do that baby
Come
Do that baby Do that baby
Come
Let me suck U

(Come)
(Come)
(Come)
(Come)
(Come)
Don't scream
Don't talk
(Come)
Don't breathe
(Come)
Just lay back
Just lay back
(Come)
Just lay back and dream
Dream (Come)
Dream
Dream (Come)

(Come, Come, Come, Come, Come)
(Come, Come, Come, Come, Come)
(Come, Come, Come, Come, Come)

(Come)
Oh yeah
(Come)
Oh love
(Come)
Did U Come, Come, Come, Come
(Come)
I wanna know
(Come)
(Come)

(U should do that baby) U should do that baby
(Come)
Oh yes (Oh yes)
Oh yes
Come
U should do that baby
(Do that girl)
(Come)
(Oh yeah)
(Come)

No more, no more (No more will U cry)
Will U cry, cry, cry, cry (Here's a reason why)
If U had the chance
(Come)
(If U had the chance) 2 see the future would U try?
(Come)
If U will, if U will, so will I
(If U will, so will I)
{Come, Come, Come}
(Baby)
(Come)
(Come)
When I blow that mind baby
(Come)
I'm gonna drive U crazy
Come
U should do that baby
Come


There are your words and your music too. [Prince's Come]

[Aeradalia]

Holy **** Lesa...

I agree with Indus18... really dependent on the woman you're with.

For me, I like a little humor... tends to take the edge off and keep the mood nice and easy. Though I do like to hear dirtier and explicit things as well (i.e... what he wants to do to me... what I should do for him.. etc.).

Prefer the music soft and low... nothing too distracting... sometimes no music at all is preferred.

[Indus18]

Holy **** Lesa...

I agree with Indus18... really dependent on the woman you're with.

For me, I like a little humor... tends to take the edge off and keep the mood nice and easy. Though I do like to hear dirtier and explicit things as well (i.e... what he wants to do to me... what I should do for him.. etc.).

Prefer the music soft and low... nothing too distracting... sometimes no music at all is preferred.

Lol, totally forgot about humor, but yeah, if you're a funny person, Aeradalia's right. It lightens the mood, and makes things feel flirtatious and exciting, and provides a playful atmosphere too. When I'm with a girl, even in intimate situations, there's always little humorous things that come up, or some antic I pull to make the girl laugh, or to toy with her or whatnot, but to deliberately try to be funny when you're either a serious person, or are just nervous as hell probably won't do you any good. It's not so much what you say, but how you communicate as a whole, right? Eyes, smiles, gestures, and words. Dirty talk is nothing w/o the right moves while doing it. Same with playful talk.

I do get the feeling you want something specific, and since I already gave the general idea with the dirtier talk: with the playful, humor type stuff, one of hte many things I can think of off the top of my head is, as your'e going down on a girl, and doing your little seductive thing, kissing/nibbling down from the stomach, getting closer and closer to the spot, RIGHT as I've kissed just millimeters above the spot she's been anticipating me gettign to I'll say something like "should I head back up now?" The reaction is seldom annoyed and more like a frustrated giggle while she grabs my head and thrusts it that last bit. It makes thigns hotter even though you'd think it woudln't. (Keep in mind though, teasign a girl all the time could get old Fast, so I would not make this a ritual)

So just play it by ear. Be yourself only ...naughtier

(unless you're into role-playing, then be captain hook for all i care.)

Also, I prefer no music most of the time, but maybe that's just me.

[Bo]

listen to jem-come on closer
it's amazing while having sex.

and as for things to say i can't help u out. it should really come naturally...

[Gigabitch]

Her own name.

[Hollywood]

Before my fiancee... I didn't really like hearing anything. I enjoy hearing him talk sometimes but it turns me on when hear how - - - i am rofl! oh gosh... too much but idk i would talk about how good it is and how u cant get enough idk lol

[doppelgaenger]

Who cares what girls in general like. What's more important is what your own woman wants.