Internet prostitutes

[sl9801]

I have been with internet prostitutes in the past (about 18 total). Did this to lose my virginity at age 23 and continued this mostly for about a year. I fear that because of this, I could face breakup from a girl if I get into a relationship with her and admit this.

Have been in one relationship where I have recently broken up. I admitted this fact to her and she still stayed with me. I have heard from many people that many women will drop a guy like a rock if they have ever been with a prostitute/escort.

So my question is would you reject a guy who had been with internet prostitutes in his past?

[Junket]

Why would you tell anyone?

Especially if you didn't intend on continuing the behavior while you were with them?

[Illusional]

yes, i would never speak about this again.

...remember, it never happened.


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[dewilliams2]

Unless asked don't say anything and even if you are asked...don't say anything.

I like to keep the rule with relationships....I don't want to know who or how many you have ****ed, you don't ask the same of me....in my head all of the nice girls I have been with are virgins and they just happen to naturally be good at those nasty things we do....thats in my own little world of course...in reality I know they have been with other guys.

Its the fact that you paid for it which makes it kinda bad but in the end I don't really care and most people don't. I have nothing against whores, I'm just to cheap to pay for something I could get for free with a little effort at a bar or something.

Seriously unless it is brought up I wouldn't say a word. And stop going if it is bothering you. Like I said go to a bar if you wanta get some strange....but also take a class or something and meet a nice girl you don't have to pay.

[VincenzoG91]

18 in one year? Wow, I didn't have that kind of money when I was 23. Seriously, we're talking about nearly $4,000, at least in this part of the country.

[Mish]

What's an "internet prostitute"?

[Perryville]

I had the same idea, Mish. Are you actually having sex with a human, or is this some kind of cyber-porn beat off ?

[hello1]

As a 20 year old female I can honestly tell you no way. 1 would properly make me seriously doubt a relationship but 18? wow that stuns me and it will a lot of women out there but some women will properly be able to handle it...

[xxazurexx]

No way.

I'd think you must have been pretty desperate to pay for a prostitute and the fact you'd been 'desperate' alone, would be enough to put me off.

[Charlie Boy II]

"internet prostitutes" lol

I think that whole episode should stay between you and the internet prostitutes.

[VincenzoG91]

What's an "internet prostitute"?

Actually, that's a good question. I assumed that he meant call girls who advertise online. But maybe he is just talking about camera girls, where you pay by the minute to watch them play with themselves. That's pretty tame, and while nothing to brag about to anybody, much safer than actually having sex with prostitutes.

[RdHrshyKss]

i'd be interested to know what he means by internet prostitute as well. if it's what vincenzo mentioned, i'd probably be a little weirded out, but i'd probably be able to move on. if it actually involved live human prostitutes that he was meeting on the web and paying for sex, it's a little different.

i wouldn't lie about it, but wouldn't mention it to your gf unless you guys are having a pretty deep discussion about past experiences or if she flat out asks you. hopefully you guys will be close enough at that point that she won't judge you too harshly.

[girl68]

Yep I would drop you like a rock. That to me, signifies a deep lack of morals (IMO). Our views on sex are 100% incompatible and that is the reason I wouldn't be able to be involved.

Note: I would find out because I DO ask. If you decide not to tell (which is 100% your right) I assume the worst.

[RdHrshyKss]

I would find out because I DO ask. If you decide not to tell (which is 100% your right) I assume the worst.

good point. lying about it is the worst idea ever, because if the girl does find out she's not going to be able to trust you period. it's better to be honest about it and explain what was going on at that point in your life that made you feel the need to do those things. if it's something that she can't accept or tolerate, then you guys just aren't meant to be. you need to find someone who accepts you for who you are and accepts all the baggage you come with. by putting yourself in this type of situation it might be a little harder for you, but there is someone out there that would be ok with this part of your past. you just have to find her...

[Kaius]

There is a whole mainstream industry of internet prostitution. Cops know about it, but it's a waste of time busting these people.
There are actual review sites where you can get reliable information on which "providers" are reliable, and what they are willing to do.
These resources are extremely important, as the community of "hobbyists" contribute for the greater good. No one wants to get
ripped off or have a bad experience.

I did extensive research on this as part of my graduate studies. I found that most of the reputable providers are very decent honest people.
They risk their lives every day. They are very careful with cleanliness and disease awareness. I would have unprotected sex with them any day
over someone I meet at a bar. These women are very respectable, and I wish our society would protect them. But I digress....

Usually men in mid-30s visit these prostitutes because of various reasons. This is an addictive behavior, and it takes much dedication to extinguish.
If you do find a woman you want to be committed to, you should, before you sleep with her, get tested so you are 100% clean. Then you erase
all of that in your head, so you never have to reveal it. Why would you want to talk about an addiction that is no longer there? Just don't say anything,
as there will be no traces if you are 100% disease-free.