oook sorry if its long
My ex (who just moved away a few months ago with his new girlfriend) was planning on attending a mutual friend's birthday party. I was planning on attending as well. I called him weeks ago to make sure everything would be kosher if I went (since we used to be best friends for years before we were lovers and we still talk often) And he said things would be fine, and he mentioned that his girl friend wouldnt be there, so there wouldnt be an issue on that end.
Now a quick side note. I broke up with him over his new girl, cause they were hanging out and she didnt know we were together (we kept it secret - because we ALL worked together) And once this girl found out, she didnt let up, calling him showing up at his house drunk, he insisted they were friends, but i knew better... blah blah blah so it was over. and we fought and fought and fought, and I never really gave his new girl a hard time, i actually just never gave her the time of day. She's just scum to me. what kind of girl goes after a taken guy right in front of your face... BUT ANYWAY!
Back to the party:
Now i get a phone call from our mutual friend saying his girl wants to go with him, and naturally, I said.. I could care less. Its not their birthday im going there for.
Then i get a phone call saying my ex doesnt want to go now cause he doesnt want to be in that situation.
I said well i used to work with them while they were together, and we got along fine then. I would figure by now he would be over it.
Now mind you, he never mentions her name to me, like he avoids even bringing up he's got a girlfriend at ALL. AND i'd just like to add, i have NEVER said a mean or hateful word about her to him or any of his friends.
SO. do you think he's cancelling b/c he feels guilty? Or he's worried about us fighting? Or he thinks she'll ruin his good time?
Mind you I emailed him and told him its silly for him not to come, we are all adults. Lets just have fun. And I got no response as of yet.
What should I think??
i posted about this same situation somewhere else when I was deciding whether to go or not, but this is the update on the situation