went out with another guy -

[xdelilah]

Hi Everyone,

I went and saw a therapist and he told me to go out with another guy because my ex is playing the "mind control and controlling" boyfriend thing. Where he won't commit but will get upset if I go out with someone else even though he says I can go out with other people, but he won't.

The therapist said it should make him realize I won't wait around forever, so if he wants me he better step up now.

So tonight I texted him a pic of me and this guy and he just replied back "wow, i see how it is...later". I said "hope its not a problem, you told me to date other people". He replied back...no problem, ttyl. He just texted me now...all i wana do is insult him and argue and it looks like i moved on. So he blocked my number and doesn't wana talk to me anymore.

What the? So I guess he never really wanted to be with me after 4yrs.

[jeejee]

What does ttyl mean? Btw, your therapist sucks.

[xdelilah]

talk to you later = ttyl.
Why does my therapist suck??

Now as I replied back over text via internet..."I guess you really did want me to date other men, i wanted to see the truth, i thought we could have been friends".

He replies back, We can be friends, i just cant take anymore harassment.
I said what harassment. I just showed you a picture.

He said lets talk later.

[jeejee]

You're having bf trouble, and your therapist tells you to date other dudes, now you have this cluster**** of a mess, and you're wondering why your therapist sucks? It's all a bit dawson creek for me, but dating other dudes wont help you with your current bf. Nor will sending him pics of you and another brother.

[Boisdevie]

If your ex is such a shit why are you wasting time even texting him? Sending him a photo of you with another guy? Is this some kind of attempt to even up old scores? Just ignore the dickhead.

[xdelilah]

You're having bf trouble, and your therapist tells you to date other dudes, now you have this cluster**** of a mess, and you're wondering why your therapist sucks? It's all a bit dawson creek for me, but dating other dudes wont help you with your current bf. Nor will sending him pics of you and another brother.

Ok, well since he expects me to wait around, yet won't commit to dating me again? What do you think I should have done? He knows I'm in total love with him and want to be with him. So he knows I'd wait around. I'm sick of it. He keeps using it to his advantage.

[steviej]

I can't stand games like this. It's pathetic. If you and your ex are unable to communicate like adults then you're not suited.
Texting pics of you with another guy, wow how mature.

[reeba]

You need to find a new therapist (who is your therapist, your 15 year old friend?), and you need to grow up.

Stop playing games, thinking you are going to make him jealous and that he will want to take you back. He probably blocked your number because he thinks you are a psycho, and hoping you will just go away.

[Boisdevie]

Ok, well since he expects me to wait around, yet won't commit to dating me again? What do you think I should have done? He knows I'm in total love with him and want to be with him. So he knows I'd wait around. I'm sick of it. He keeps using it to his advantage.

Jeez, are you really that stupid?

[xdelilah]

You need to find a new therapist (who is your therapist, your 15 year old friend?), and you need to grow up.

Stop playing games, thinking you are going to make him jealous and that he will want to take you back. He probably blocked your number because he thinks you are a psycho, and hoping you will just go away.

im sorry but how am i a psycho? I did nothing crazy. Thats just mean to say. My therapist been one for over 20 years. Hes in his 50s. Ok stop playing games what else should i do who wants to always be in control? Got a better idea im open to hearing it.

[surfhb]

Your therapist had great advice....not sure why people are bagging on him? The problem the way you handled it....pretty immature to stick it to him like that. If he wasn't really to commit from the beginning why would you even care if you saw other people?

He's not you bf since you had no exclusive relationship. Leave it at that and move on. Why would you fall in love with someone who's not willing to commit? That's the real question

[VincenzoG91]

So how was your date with your therapist? I assume that's who you went out with, because he sounds unprofessional enough to date a client.

[xdelilah]

Your therapist had great advice....not sure why people are bagging on him? The problem the way you handled it....pretty immature to stick it to him like that. If he wasn't really to commit from the beginning why would you even care if you saw other people?

He's not you bf since you had no exclusive relationship. Leave it at that and move on. Why would you fall in love with someone who's not willing to commit? That's the real question

Actually he was my boyfriend commitment of 4yrs. He got upset I didn't take care of him when he got pissed drunk and he didn't tell me to come when he had his guy friend with him.

[xdelilah]

So how was your date with your therapist? I assume that's who you went out with, because he sounds unprofessional enough to date a client.

Um, that's an insult. I find that rude and immature to reply to a post like this when I was asking for advice. If you don't have anything nice to say, why would you say anything at all?

[surfhb]

Actually he was my boyfriend commitment of 4yrs. He got upset I didn't take care of him when he got pissed drunk and he didn't tell me to come when he had his guy friend with him.

Ok I see...regardless, that's Irrelevant then at this point. The fact remains he's nOT interested in dating you. You decided to move on then created a shite storm with some childish behavior. Leave him be and move on with your life.