hey everyone, i'm new to this forum and desperately need some advice pls! Ok so I've been seeing this guy for around 2 & a half months and I really really like him. He has been a good friend for a while, but we ended up getting together one night... We kind of fell into it - we've both come out of long-term relationships and neither of us really wanted anything 'serious', So it started as very much a physical thing (we're very compatible in that way..!) but then progressed quite quickly to become more than that. We started seeing each other more and more often and then about a month ago he actually told me he loves me... though I care about him a lot, I didn't feel read to say it back but he said he was fine with that - he just wanted to tell me how he felt.
Anyway.. fast forward a month and things are now, well... crap! You see he has a daughter to his previous partner (they share care of her) and we also work veeerrry different hours, so we barely see each other, maybe once a week. This started to really get to me, and I found I was always left wanting while he was too busy to see me. I started to feel insecure about his feelings and the last couple of times we've been together he has been quiet and distracted. I feel as if he is not into it anymore and a couple of times that he has actually been free he hasn't made the effort to see me. So... I told him I didn't think it was working and we should end things because it is impossible to find enough time together. He was unhappy with that, but agreed that he can't give me the attention I deserve and just feels really stressed with working long hours, looking after his little girl and also trying to see friends sometimes as well. So we agreed it was for the best to break up... but then the very next day we confessed to liking each other a lot and wishing it could work. But not knowing what to do, we're now having a 'break' for a few days to gain perspective and decide what to do. The thing is, I am now regretting ever saying anything, I miss him like crazy and am scared he is going to come back to me after a week and say he isn't into it anymore. Is he just using the break to let me down gently? When we decided to have a break, I told him that I missed him and he said "I miss you too, but I want to miss you more" WHAT does that MEAN??! Does it mean that he likes the idea of being with me, but not the reality??! Oh I am so confused - this is very long guys, sorry!!! Please help, I want to understand where he is coming from but I don't know :-(