Male satisfaction get women off?

[dewilliams2]

So I've been with my current gf for about 6 weeks and over about the past 3 weeks to a month we have been having sex...a lot of sex.

Now last night we were talking and basically we had a little bet and I won a bj. She said "I'm sure I'm not doing it perfectly so if there is anything you want me to change let me know." I told her she was actually quite good at it and I loved it. And I was being truthful....she does it very well.

I said the same thing to her. Basically that if there is anythings she wants I'm not doing or wants me to change something or stop doing something to let me know. She said everything I do feels really good. She has said this both times I have asked her because I asked her another time a few weeks ago. I mean all women are different surely there is something she likes differently from how I do it. When I asked her the first time what got her off she said it was me getting off.

Then lastnight when I said well I want you to feel as good as me so I want to make sure you get off every time to. She said "trust me you've gotten me there but you getting off is more important to me than me getting off so don't worry about it."

The problem is I really do want to make sure she has an orgasm as much as possible. I mean I know you can't force these things and I know she has had them with me but I don't know that I like the fact that she isn't concerned about getting off.

But is this normal? Do women actually get off from a man getting off?...is it that big of a turn on?

[Gigabitch]

I see his getting off as an enhancement to my own experience, but it's not a replacement for an orgasm.

Nothing is.

[angel2002]

I feel more satisfied when i satisfy him first, than me, so i think theres nothing there to be concerned about as you said women are different and this is the way she likes it

[girl68]

I agree with Giga. seeing him get off does not make me cum.

[Junket]

My g/f considers an orgasm the icing on the cake, not the cake.

There are times when we have marathon sessions that she just gets so tired, or sore, that she'll pull me me away before I finish the job.

It took me a while to get used to this, because as a male, the goal is always to achieve orgasm, no matter how long or short the actual sex is. And in todays culture, the man often feels obligated to get his woman off at all times as a way of proving himself.

It was one of those things where I had to stop being stubborn, and actually listen and trust what she was saying to me.

If you guys keep an open and comfortable dialogue in regards to sex, then I'm sure when she really wants you to get her off, she'll let you know.

[QueenofCorona]

I totally get off when my bf gets off. To me its hot, knowing I/my body got him to that point.

[dewilliams2]

It sounds to me like you women are split.

@QofC...those were pretty much her exact words....so maybe I have nothing to worry about...its just the way she is.

[Junket]

Sorry, a point I forgot to make is that she's clarify the sex is really good, and she enjoys the heightened state of sensitivity and stimulation over a prolonged period sometimes more than the actual orgasm.

As a guy, that would just drive me mad.

[dewilliams2]

Sorry, a point I forgot to make is that she's clarify the sex is really good, and she enjoys the heightened state of sensitivity and stimulation over a prolonged period sometimes more than the actual orgasm.

As a guy, that would just drive me mad.

That is exactly what she said...I guess it is normal then.

[Junket]

That is exactly what she said...I guess it is normal then.

Weird, isn't it?

I mean, especially when even women's magazines advertising tips and secrets to the best orgasms, or whatever, as a guy, I just assumed that all women were just as in to it for the orgasm as I was.