Dazed and Confused! Dumped because of Love?

[Sincere4U]

I have an experinace to get some feedback on...
This might be also posted in the cyber area, but Broken Heart does fit accurately as well.....

I met this wonderful person online and we chatted for about 7 days straight. Each day better than the first. Before you say "Oh another disappointed Cyber dater" please read on, its not what youd expect nor was it what I expected.

To continue, we finally met on day 8 or 9 and it was fantastic! The most awesome person I have met online to date. We clicked offline in the 'real' world like we did online and neither was disappointed at all. Fireworks! Explosions! we spent the night together and it was fabulous....
Then early the next evening she says she needs to leave. After some discussion she says shes not ready for 'this'. She's crying. Apologizing for hurtig me, etc etc.. And collects her things sobbing out the door.
We had taken a drive earlier and I had left my keys in her car. I called her on the cell and explained I needed my keys and she said she would bring them back right away. She came back within 20 min. She met me at the driveway, handed me my keys. Then sobbing some more hugged my really tight and said she already missed me, then said she loved me....
Totally bewildered and confused I too began to cry as she drove off. Next day I got her on the phone and as soon as I began talking she started crying again....
Telling me she missed me. 3 days go by and I call again. I say I miss her and she crys some more....I ask why she is crying and she says because of what we could have been if I were ready.....
Long story short(It may be too late for that now)....
I have been disappointed before in cyber meetings or have been dumped for incompatibility or physical attraction. This I can understand. But when someone you meet is "PERFECT" and you get along great,spend the night, and the entire next day, and in the early evening she leaves, and says the next day she misses you, but cant "do this right now" is a total side swipe. If you miss a person and cry that you do, wouldnt it make sense to go for it, to remedy the hurt and longing?....
Help me with this one as its totally weird to me.
(No, she is not married, and we still talk)
She is otherwise very together,professionally employed and just a terriffic person!

[Yacker]

It sounds like to me you guys moved too quickly and she is probably very scared of the feelings and what it's doing to change her outlook and making her life different. I'd suggest if you have any chance with this girl would be to back off and only talk to her once in a while and ease into it.

[carl1222]

It sounds like to me you guys moved too quickly and she is probably very scared of the feelings and what it's doing to change her outlook and making her life different. I'd suggest if you have any chance with this girl would be to back off and only talk to her once in a while and ease into it.

Yacker i right.

She probably has a problem with falling for guys too quickly, and probably also has suffered from the bad results of this.

OR, maybe she is just out of another relationship and is confused by her feelings for both you and her ex.

Either way, if you think she's worth the effort, give her lots of time and no pressure.

Carl.

[Mish]

But when someone you meet is "PERFECT" and you get along great,spend the night, and the entire next day, and in the early evening she leaves, and says the next day she misses you, but cant "do this right now" is a total side swipe. If you miss a person and cry that you do, wouldnt it make sense to go for it, to remedy the hurt and longing?....
Help me with this one as its totally weird to me.

Well, obviously this is a very good indication that she is not "perfect" and just as flawed as everyone else. There could be a tonne of reasons preventing her from continuing on with you from family to Religious to her seeing someone else to what she said before she's simply not ready. If she doesn't reveal her reasons openly then it's best not to agonize why fate has decided that the two of you are not a match, but accept it and move on.

[Gigabitch]

Try not to react too much, Sincere. Try to be rock-solid, tell her you are totally sure that she's the one you've been waiting for and that you'll wait for her to come back. She's freaking out. She needs something to hold on to.

I suggest you write her a good email, not too long, that will be something she can refer to when she starts questioning whether or not it's worth it to come back.

I hope you post a follow-up when you find out about what it was that caused her to wig out like that. IMO, it's not just the intensity of the emotions. I, myself, am a big tangle of feelings and irrational behavior, and I've never freaked out quite like that, so I suspect there's more to the story.