When you leave

[lamarthe]

How do you feel when you are the one that left and you know you've hurt the other person so much? What goes through your mind?

[Gigabitch]

That's horrible. Worst feeling in the world- brings up all kinds of stuff about loyalty, quitting, betrayal, etc.

At least when someone else leaves you, you know you have to just accept the reality that it is what it is. When you're making the decision, you're the bad guy.

I think it all gets clearer with perspective. You stop second-guessing yourself.

[lamarthe]

But even if you feel horrible, you feel good to have been able to cut it off.
It's easier to get over it, not to really suffer because somehow you are happier
with the choice you made. Is this making sense? You can just erase it.

[vashti]

I've never been left, but when I have done the leaving, it was LONG overdue so I didn't feel bad at all.

[SONOIL]

How do you feel when you are the one that left and you know you've hurt the other person so much? What goes through your mind?

Well I cut it off when I was told that I've been cheated on, but once again, my ex didn't say wether she was sorry or wanted to work this out nor did she say that she wanted to be with me. I stated that it was OVER, but until now, i feel kinda weird about it, i sort of feel guilty but at the same time like I was dumped. The good thing is that i don't have to care about person who was taking me for a ride... Th bad thing is, i'm stil alone and and those damn' memories from past relationship still hunt me...

[Gribble]

I've done a lot of leaving in my day, and rarely for good reason. In high school I sought a way to dump girls without hurting them. I tried pissing them off enough that maybe they'd dump me or they'd be glad I'd left. Didn't work. I tried thinking up ways of dumping a girl so it would seem in her favor. "You can do better than me!" That didn't work, either. In the end I said **** it and told the truth. That sure as hell didn't work.

Today I don't even think about it. I live in a society that places enormous emphasis on something I don't value. Not much I can do to change that short of leaving the country or altering my entire philosophy on life. I don't like hurting people's feelings, but I'm male, horny, and unwilling to pay hookers, so... sorry, ladies. At least I treat them like goddesses while I'm interested.