Well, me and my girlfriend were together for a while (about 2 years) but then I had to go somewhere pretty far away for a while.. Not long, less than a year. Now we're more than half way through and it's a pain
She gets depressed a lot. I mean really really depressed. And very upset. And irritated. When I ask her what's wrong she sometimes tells me that she doesn't know what got into her, but that's the way it is, it's going to fade away.. or that she just has a bad day or that she just misses me a lot. She is sometimes mean to me, picking on me for all the small reasons. Ok.. I know people are different and all, but I miss her too and that gets me really depressed, but not upset. We fight a lot lately and from all the small and insignificant reasons. We we realize what we were fighting about it sounds ridiculous.. but still, it's a fight (=not good).
I really care about her. She is the love of my life and her behavior is worrying me a lot. I'm going through some tough times right now, and so is she. But me being so codependent makes me go through tougher times when she is so depressed. I tried pulling her out of these moods in many different ways (comforting her, making jokes, reassuring her, etc..), but I have my limits and I'm constantly failing - usually I just break down and she has to pull be back together.
The bad thing is that I have a pretty productive imagination. And when I see her like that, different things keep popping into my mind. I mean there is so little time left until we are together again, but she keeps clinging on the present (past) time we are apart, completely disregarding the near future in which we will be happy..