I want to cheat

[Sleed]

Ill keep it short :

- I was a virgin before my 2 years relationship in which i am still

- My girlfriend is very beatiful , like a 9 or 9.5 , but she works and has a low sex drive because she is tired all the time( we do it once a month , or once every 2 weeks).

- Even though she is beautiful i only had sex with her and im curious about other women.

- I want to cheat out of curiosity and because she has a low sex drive

- I also dont want to lose her, because she is smart, strong and very beautiful, but i cant sacrifice my sexual curiosity( i only had her as a woman) for her ; She had like 6 boyfriends before me , so she is done experimenting , but im not even started.

- I want to cheat , i dont care about the moral stuff, i wanna do it, what do you guys think? The pros and the cons, also i want her to not find out, i want to also keep her.

- And please dont give me any soft advice , about feelings and such , i want a cynical or realistic advice pls.

[maxmax]

I want to cheat out of curiosity

VS

I also dont want to lose her

In most cases, it will have to be one or the other.

Best course of action is to talk to her and explain that the lack of sex is affecting the relationship and that you feel very strongly about it.

If that leads to an improvement in the bedroom, then all is well.

However, that wont address the fact that you want to experience other women. Well, better than cheating on her is to tell her straight ... "I need more sex, and I'd like to try it with other women". You'll probably already have a vague idea of how she will react.

The fact is, cheating is a losers game. If you cheat, things will turn out for the worse, sooner or later. Better to be open an honest.

Frankly, at times we all might wonder what it might be like to sleep with this person and that, but is you really care, respect and value the person you are with, you'll know that it is just a fantasy, and that's how it should stay.

You're going to have to chose which it is.

[Ric]

Don't cheat. -_-
If you want to sleep around, do the right thing and break up with her. If you don't want to lose her, keep it in your pants.
If you try to have both then eventually it will backfire and you will hurt her a lot more.

So, decide if she is worth the lack of a sex life.

[Sleed]

No woman is worth a lack of sex life . This is a selfish view but she is also selfish with me , she wants me around to cheer her up like a personal clown , she wants me to be there to wake her up like a personal clock and i have to respect all her little psycho fixations. She is super selfish in this relationshipt and i have no problem being that way also.

And absolutly no woman is worth a lack of sex life. What if i experiment and she doesnt catch me? If i have a sex girl on the side, that i want only for sex and she wants me only for sex, that would be the sex life.

[maxmax]

What if i experiment and she doesnt catch me? If i have a sex girl on the side, that i want only for sex and she wants me only for sex, that would be the sex life.

OK, so go ahead and cheat on her, but know that doing so makes you an asshole.

Nobody deserves to he messed about. If you are unhappy with the relationship then either:

1) Talk to her about it with the intention of addressing the problems, or;

2) End the relationship.

Of course, that's if you want to do the decent thing. If not, then l guess you don't need our advice.

[Ric]

That's your view and a very understandable view. I wouldn't judge for that.

But, if you actually do love her you wouldn't cheat on her. If you love her and need sex, you either talk to her and see if it can improve, which isn't very likely.
Or, you break up with her because you guys aren't compatible. Then you find yourself a girlfriend that is more sexual and she finds herself a boyfriend that doesn't care much about sex.

But, if you do go ahead and cheat on her, you are lowlife, and will eventually really hurt her badly.

[Vanity]

she is also selfish with me , she wants me around to cheer her up like a personal clown , she wants me to be there to wake her up like a personal clock and i have to respect all her little psycho fixations. She is super selfish in this relationshipt and i have no problem being that way also.

Um wtf? Your problem is she wants you to cheer her up when she is down? You realize that is what lovers are supposed to do for each other? And wanting you to wake her up in the morning makes her psycho and selfish? You are an asshole!

I hope that when you cheat on her she finds out and dumps you.

[Wakeup]

No woman is worth a lack of sex life . This is a selfish view but she is also selfish with me , she wants me around to cheer her up like a personal clown , she wants me to be there to wake her up like a personal clock and i have to respect all her little psycho fixations. She is super selfish in this relationshipt and i have no problem being that way also.

And absolutly no woman is worth a lack of sex life. What if i experiment and she doesnt catch me? If i have a sex girl on the side, that i want only for sex and she wants me only for sex, that would be the sex life.

I have to ask why you want to keep her when it appears that you don't even like her much. Is it because she's hot and you don't think you'll be able to pull another like her? Is it because you're afraid that another girl won't want you as a sex partner so you want to keep her on your hook because once a month is better than no times a month? What is it. What do you actually love about her that makes you want to keep her while you try to get extra curricular pootang on the side?

[Sleed]

Hey vanity, i meant she kinda uses me and conditiones me to please her need for a certain boyfriend
She wants the happy, strong and funny guy and i cant deliver all the time and she always cries i dont play enough attention to her.
She never does anything i like , on the contrary and im supose to do everything she likes , like a nice little slave clown . So you see , that is why im a bit selfish.

[Ric]

So, you feel like her slave, feel unappreciated, don't think she does anything for you, don't like the lack of a sex life...
Why are you still with her?

[Sleed]

She is superb , she is very smart and strong and she loves me , tells me she will commit suicide if i leave her and such.

[Sleed]

Strong in the sense that she does her daily part , not strong emotionally.

[Wakeup]

She is superb , she is very smart and strong and she loves me , tells me she will commit suicide if i leave her and such.

She is sick and delusional and needs professional help. I suspect the only reason you stay is because of your fears that I point out in my first post. You're just a sick as her if you stay with her and feed off of her illness. Read up on codependency because that is what you appear to be.

Do what you will. It doesn't matter what anymone says here, you will live your life of codependency until you're as emotionally fkd as she is. Have fun. At least have the decency to tell your sex partners the truth, that you're with someone and only want casual sex with them.

She never does anything i like , on the contrary and im supose to do everything she likes , like a nice little slave clown . So you see , that is why im a bit selfish.

Ugh, you really are issued.

[Ric]

Couldn't have said it better than Wakeup.

[Sleed]

Yes , Wakeup , i also think she needs profesional help, i will insist that she goes to a specialist,she really must, also she is very moody because of this.

I dont wanna lose her because she is a good person that maybe can be healed through profesional help. Also she has a lot of 9 or 10 qualities, that are hard to find in other girls i think.

I can get a girl easily, i think. Im tall, fit , have a nice face and im rich and friendly and i think im good in bed , my gf usually screams when we do it, in the begining , when she didnt work , we used to do it 2 times a day and she used to orgasm vaginaly. Now she is usually moody, cries or screams cause i dont wanna move in with her faster.... she is at the phase of moving in , im at the sexual experimenting phase and i dont wanna be a peon in her plan.