Howdy... good to see another Texan...
I would imagine that you might like the challenge of working to earn the affections of another... much like some men enjoy the 'chase' when pursuing women.
Just be careful... sometimes all that 'hard work' may bear little fruit. It's always best to make sure all the time and effort spent is really worth it.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen