Is it normal to feel physically exhausted right after a hard break-up?

[jmah]

The break-up happened on the 2nd of Jan. I really did love her and as much as I try to push forward, I feel that I need time to grieve. I'm just so tired, though, physically. It could be depression, or just that the last month has been horrible in dealing with the relationship, and now the break-up, and all of it has finally caught up to me.

I have all intention of getting out there and enjoying myself, eventually (hobbies, going out with friends), but, right now, I don't have the energy.

Has this ever happened to anyone else?

[yegdulps]

For me it was the exact opposite. I mopped at home for a day and after that I was only really ever home to sleep. I was always out with friends doing things which helped me a lot. If you don't feel like going out call a couple of female friends for a movie night and get one or two bottles of wine. This will also give you the chance to talk about it and feel that your friends are there for you.

[Gigabitch]

I've found that emotional exhaustion is even more debilitating than physical exhaustion. The worst part is that you get really worn out but you can be too upset to sleep.

It's very traumatic. Give it time, and you'll eventually come back to normal, but it's going to take weeks.

[swargolet]

Everyone seems to handle a break-up differently. Like yegdulps said she was constantly doing stuff.
Some people lose their appetite others feel like chowing down as much food as possible.
Some people cry their eyes out and reach out to others, and some people hold it all in and deal with it themselves.

I'm going through a break-up right now and the first couple weeks I was physically and emotionally tired like you and the fact that i couldn't get any sleep didn't help, which I'm sure is happening to you.
What helped with me was to just get out of the house and hang out with my friends because that forced me to stay active. For the first few days I actually fell asleep on their floor or couch at 6-8 pm and wok up anywhere between midnight and 5 am so I wasnt the best friend at those times luckily others were there and they knew my situation also.
Just try and get out and stay active, it will keep your mind off the break-up and you will have a great time also.

[sir_vile_minds]

I feel like we're about to break up right now and feel the same. I have my hobbies (playing guitar and photography) so I do that but I'm losing sleep over all this, my appetite has gone right down (I used to eat constantly without putting weight on, now hardly eat) and I just feel bleh!

You'll get over it as I'm sure I will. Just give it time and cry it all out.

[Muffin Princess]

Once again swargolet is right (boy I agree with you on everything!). Everything is different to everyone. I'm like you jmah, my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago and to start with I was exhausted, but I couldn't sleep. I kept on having heart palpitations and going over everything over and over again, I would wake up with a start in the middle of the night and then not be able to get back to sleep again. I couldn't eat and lost about 8lb, which is a lot when you only weigh about 125lb to start with!

But now I'm sleeping ok and I'm eating ok. All it takes is time. Don't despair, you will feel better again one day, however much it feels like it won't. I felt exactly the same, I thought I would never stop crying and I cried every day for about two weeks, but now it's less frequent and I'm starting to realise that I will be ok on my own. Reach out to your friends, spend time with them having fun, or talking or crying with them if you feel like it, it's important to use them right now!

[Lite]

The basic problem is that sadness and depression are emotions that direct negative energy inward. It's very taxing on your body. It's better to be angry than sad, at least that way the energy is directed outward away from yourself, and you can use that to get things done.

So, yeah. It's normal to feel that way.

[Junket]

The basic problem is that sadness and depression are emotions that direct negative energy inward. It's very taxing on your body. It's better to be angry than sad, at least that way the energy is directed outward away from yourself, and you can use that to get things done.

So, yeah. It's normal to feel that way.

It's good to be angry.

[survivor08]

It is better to be temporarily angry. Just not for long, because it kills the spirit, and is damaging to one's body just the same.

Use anger to get over her
"screw you, I will show you I am better than you think I am, I am going to improve my situation by, exercising, dating nicer people, making more money...whatever....

[Aeradalia]

During a break up I can't maintain an appetite, I barely sleep, and I hold all the pain inward (try to not let it show - last thing I want is people commenting on it - bringing it up over and over again)... all the while skimming through the memories trying to piece together how and why the break up occurred. This may last about a month or so.

I may feel tired, but I have the nervous energy that courses through me... and won't let me go or sleep.

When I finally do come to terms with the break up and find an answer to the 'how' and 'why' that satisfies... I feel much better, resume my appetite... and the next few days I sleep like the dead.

[Cbrider]

During a break up I can't maintain an appetite, I barely sleep, and I hold all the pain inward (try to not let it show - last thing I want is people commenting on it - bringing it up over and over again)... all the while skimming through the memories trying to piece together how and why the break up occurred. This may last about a month or so.

I may feel tired, but I have the nervous energy that courses through me... and won't let me go or sleep.

When I finally do come to terms with the break up and find an answer to the 'how' and 'why' that satisfies... I feel much better, resume my appetite... and the next few days I sleep like the dead.

I'm exactly like you except I can't hide pain well and i wish I could.

[swargolet]

Hehe Muffin... Maybe you're my long lost soul mate!
It has been 3 weeks for me and I'm still waking up really early and not having a great appetite UNLESS I'm out with my friends. Really I cant stress that enough. Get out and do things!
This morning I woke up at 3 AM (im not with friends thats why) and I couldnt get back to sleep because I kept thinking about the break-up and just everything. I just went on my computer to do some fun (no not porn) internet browsing to get my mind off things. Just find something that interests you that you can do alone to keep your mind off her.

This thread just shows how different everyone is. Aeradalia goes through the break-up to find out why it happened. I personally can't do that.

You will get through this.
O one more thing. Music seems to be a great line of support for me. Check out the "moving on songs" thread and find some you like. Try to stay away from depressing songs though as those will only make things worse.

[and_for_what]

Definately for me. I've had about two hours sleep per night this year so far, and the constant stress and anxiety drains your nervous energy a lot. I was a very active and physical person, but for the first few days I couldn't even ride my bike, my legs were too weak. I've lost a lot of weight from barely eating, as well.
Eat what you can but don't force anything down. I think that if you have no appetite then you usually shouldn't eat.

[Kromat]

Keep yourself busy with school or work, hang out with positive friends that can help you out through this tough time, and just move on.
You'll find someone eventually in the near future, and this will help you get into the next relationship that you might have.