Did I do the right thing?

[InLimbo]

I have just come to the end of a three year long distance relationship. He was so wonderful. We fell in love within the first month. Things were great for the first several months as we spent much time together. Things became steadily downhill over the next several months and years. He had an affair. He would borrow money for the excuse to tie up his loose ends for us to be together and so on. Durring this time, he flirted online, had an affair (as mentioned before) started to treat me bad and so on. Between gambling and flirting and online women addictions and his own problems, I became the flower on the wall. It finally came down to him loosing his job a few months back and him getting a job where i live. He had a job interview, but within a couple days, he dropped all contact.. and ultimately abandoned any life with me including contact. Over the months before, several times I tried to break off the relationship over and over again because I was getting hurt and he would repeatedly keep telling me not to leave him and tell me he can't live without me.

After the abandonment and him blocking my number out of the blue, I finally could not take it anymore. I have resigned myself from this relationship although he keeps saying he loves me and has failed me and everyone else durring little spurts where he unblocks my number to call me.

I have had enough. I have decided to move on. I have been too badly bruised to continue with my ex. I have resigned to no longer allow his communication being is that all I can do is be angry and cannot effectively communicate because of his hot and cold head games.

Am I doing the right thing by letting go and forgetting the past three years of my life and chalking it up to experience? I just want to be loved someday and find that right person for me. It just seems that all he want's to do is keep me in an emotional cage while he has a life.

I just want to let go of this for good. Right thing or no? Observe No contact indefinately?

[casanddra]

Doesn't sound like he was your best match to be honest.

[stuckies]

why would you want contact? Fo him to explain? For him to realise he was your soul mate and messed up? Alas life isn't a meg ryan flick. He may have cared but re-read what you wrote, in the end he's used you.