So two weeks ago I found out that I was pregnant by my boyfriend of nearly years. He took the news a little hard at first, but I told him.if he wasnt ready that he was more then welcome to.back out with no strings attached. He told me he wanted to stay and raise our child together. Cool, done deal right? We announced everything to our friends and family and we're all cool. Since I've told him I was pregnant, he's been very distant physically and emotionally. He's usually a cuddly person but hasnt wanted anything from me. Anyways, yesterday I was using his Kindle and I found porn. We had a fight months ago about that and he said he would stop watching it. I understand he's a man and looks at it for visual excitement and I didnt get mad... Until I realized he was looking up very specific porn stars and nude photos of celebrities. That I'm not ok with. So today I brought it up to him and he told me that he hasn't been physically attracted to me lately and that before I told basicallyhim I was.pregnant that he was going to dump me. I explained to him that I dont need him in my life and he can leave whenever he wants. I feel like he's only with me due to the obligation of raising our child and I dont want that. I want him to be with me because he loves me. He also told me that he loves me but he's not in love with me right now. Then he turns around and says he does want to be with me and he's trying to devote himself to me. I call bulls*** all this. I told him he needs to get his s*** together and grow up. Either he wants to be with me or he doesn't. I dont need this.

So basically, from a male standpoint what should I do? I'm tired of this on and off stuff. It's like he can't make up his mind if he wants to be with me or not. One day he says he wants to marry me and I'm the love of his life, then the next he could care.less about me. It's not like I'm boring. I've offered to watch porn with him as foreplay. I send him nude pics of myself. I've offered for him to take his own pics of me. I've offered to try any new things he's interested in trying sexually. And I'm not ugly by any means. Not to brag but I just dont get it. Am I doing something wrong? Also I found that he's been watching porn long before I told him I was pregnant so I know that's not the reason. And he did explain to me that he's been scared to.have sex with me due to the baby and I get it and eased his mind. I just don't know what to do. If I should hang on to this whim that he's saying he'll get his life together or if I should call it a loss and move on.

I dont mind being a single mom. Ideally no it's not what I want for my child but I was raised by parents that went through this. My mom raised me while my dad was a porn fanatic and cheated. They divorced (finally) when I was 16. I dont want to relive that life and especially dont want to raise my kid around that. She was miserable and he treated her like garbage. I feel like that's the path I'm headed down.

Sorry for the long post. Would love some advice!