Final Stand

[Tick]

Ok so I've met this girl about 5 months ago and I mean I was obsessed with her at first and she too was obsessed with me tho we didn't actually do anything. Eventually our obsessions died out but we became close friends.

During the past month I showed her signs that I was interested again and she got them, but yesterday I told her what I really felt and it kinda got me nowhere cause she lost interest. But later we had a very interesting conversation about both our love lives and I learn a lot.

I learned the following about her: She doesnt want a serious relationship (Neither do I)

Unfortunatly she hadd to leave before we finished the conversation, so we'll continue the coming day. And I'm planning to learn what I can.

I have tried before with her in the past and now I'm gonna make my last stand, I'm gonna do something till Sunday coming, and if nothing happens, I give up.

But normally when you are obsessed on someone there is always that little flame burning in your heart for that person after a period of time, right?

I like to plan and organise what I do so here is the option:

Option 1
1) Learn what I can from the conversation.
2) Come up with a method to convince her to start a physical relationship. What I mean about this is like whilst out with friends we go to a place and start kissing for example, then go back, you know a relationship for physical pleasure, a lustful relationship. Not sex, definatly not sex especially at this level. And we won't be gf/bf type, just have that relationship.

Just to let you know that in the past we kissed (once) and I'm not sure if she would like to do that kind of stuff with me now, but she really wanted back then.

So what I'm asking from the good citizens of Love Forum Land is to come up with a method to start this relationship. Thanks in advance

[bluesummer]

So basically you want a friend with benefits, but without the full benefits? Ok.

Well, all I can say to that is, all you can do is ask. You can't 'convince' her of anything she's not interested in.

[vashti]

I don't get it... What's in it for her? (Or for you, for that matter?)

[bluesummer]

Yeah, I was kind of thinking the same thing.

[Tick]

I think the benefits would be enjoying a physical relationship, but I donno how to say it to her.

[vashti]

Well, I am assuming you are what...in high school? I don't know that many girls your age are interested in this sort of thing. High school girls tend to be all caught up in the romance of relationships, (but maybe not this one). I don't know how you can bring it up to her without directly saying it, though...

[Tick]

Well all her past BFs were all for physical pleasure, so I imagine that she likes it lol.

[vashti]

....???

She said that? Or are you just assuming?

[Tick]

No she told me, we're very close so I know nearly everything.
By the way, by physical pleasure I mean kisses, hugs, etc... Level 1 stuff.
She doesn't want any serious relationships.

[Tick]

So the only way is to tell her directly?

[Gigabitch]

Why is that a problem? Are you saying you're willing to put your dick in her but not speak to her in a forthright and honest manner?

[Tick]

Hm..I'm taking the dick part sarcasticly. And yes.

[Gigabitch]

I think the benefits would be enjoying a physical relationship, but I donno how to say it to her.

How does this not involve your dick? I wasn't being sarcastic at all (for once).

But really, dude. You should be able to talk to her about this stuff.

[bluesummer]

How does this not involve your dick? I wasn't being sarcastic at all (for once).

But really, dude. You should be able to talk to her about this stuff.

No, Giga, he doesn't want to sleep with her. Just make out with her.

[Gigabitch]

No, Giga, he doesn't want to sleep with her. Just make out with her.

Tick- how long do you think that's gonna last? I think you should be prepared for the fact that sex is only a few steps farther down that road.