My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months. We have had a few rough patches, but overall we are really happy the way things are going. We both exited from our respective 12+ years marriage recently, and we both have 2 young children around the same age. At this point we are very serious, and we are talking about marriage regularly.
Her interaction with her ex-husband is friendly. They get along as friends, but couldn't get along as a couple. She constantly teases him about how much nicer, smarter, and sexier I am than he is. He gets kinda pissed sometimes. He, being a white redneck racist that he is, can't believe his gorgeous ex-wife is in love with an Asian dude. This is shocking to him, and he expresses discontent via making fun of my Asian-ness (i.e. "Does he speak English?" or "Is he shorter than you?").
My interaction with my ex-wife is hostile. We never speak, unless it's about the children. When she found out that her ex-husband (me), whom she considered undesirable, is now involved with a beautiful white woman who loves everything about me, it is shocking to her. So shocking that she turned even nastier and meaner, and threatened to take my kids away from me. We are due in court in August.
My GF and I laugh about how we shocked our respective ex's. It's almost fun knowing how they hurt us for so many years, and now our happiness is such sweet revenge on them.
Has anyone ever wanted to seek revenge on an ex? If so, how did you approach it?