I was abandoned/neglected and I feel like I did something wrong...

[marycontrary]

I was abandoned by my parents when I was a baby. I feel like I didn't fit the mold of how a daughter should be. I feel like I'm undeserving of love, I feel different in a bad kind of way and I feel worthless.

This abandonment issue has crossed over into my non-existent love life. I have been rejected too many times to count and I feel like I REALLY AM different and that I'm totally defective. My uncle visited me and he lives out of state and he said he'd come back to visit and it's been around 4 or 5 months and he hasn't even called or sent his mom a Birthday card (I still live with my grandma). My uncle not coming back yet again reinforced that there's something wrong with me and that I'm a bad person. I know you'll tell me that I'm not defective or unworthy but I feel my situation is completely different from others who've been neglected or abandoned. I need some honest advice on all this!!!!

[sadie_genie]

How others treat you have nothing to do with you. Your value comes from how you develop your character. Since you don't seem to have any family members who care for you, you have to search beyond family to create your support network. Makes friends.

[Mish]

I agree with sadie, there's not much that you can do about decision of your parents, but you can find some happiness by increasing you circle of friends. Take it one step at a time, things will get better.