Would you still call thi cheating?

[Nice Lover Boy]

If a married women goes out to lunch with a single, cute, young guy, and if the husband did not know. Would it still be cheating?
Now, would it still be cheating if the Husband did know, but the married women insisted on paying for the lunch.

[Andy_S]

That's not cheating dude, its just going out to dinner.

[sfalexi]

Doesn't matter what YOU would call it. It matters what her HUSBAND would call it.

[III Angie III]

I wouldn't consider it cheating. Based on the information you've provided, it appears that your wife spent her work lunch break with a casual, male friend. In addition, by her paying for his lunch, I would say she was simply being nice.
I think you may be reading much more into her acts of kindness. Especially if she was willing to tell you that she had went to lunch with another guy.
Yet, she's your wife therefore, you should be able to communicate your concerns with her.

[sfalexi]

III Angie,

NLB is the person that was treated to lunch, BY a married woman. And she didn't tell her husband. He has no idea that this has happened.

Alexi

[abercromqt20]

i wouldn't consider it cheating, but i sure as hell think it's wrong. and the way she is keeping it from he husband proves it. i would be so pissed if my husband did that to me. that's how affairs start.

i do agree with what Rod said though..... it doesn't matter what we consider it, it has to do with what the husband feels.

[KirstyM]

It depends what her intentions were.

[abercromqt20]

either way i think it's wrong not to atleast inform your husband/wife about it. no matter what your intentions may be.

[KirstyM]

Yeah but imagine you went out for lunch with a friend and it genuinely was a completely innocent thing. You go home, something happens, maybe it's a birthday, you meet up with friends and have a good night out, bad day at work, anything like that - so when you go home thats what youre going to tell your husband about - the innocent lunch could easily slip your mind.
I agree she shouldve told her husband and the fact that she didnt makes it look a bit suspicious - but I'm just pointing out that there couldve been a number of reasons why she didnt tell him - she didnt necessarily go out of her way to hide it or anything.

[Nice Lover Boy]

Well, I was being conceited about the "cute" thing, lol. But I consider myself average but with some attraction fuel. Anyways, I believe she is just friendly because she is new to our City and loves the people here. But I do agree about how affairs start, I should know. But usually when I get invited somewhere, alone, she would initiate something or say something. But we have gone a couple of lunches together and nothing has occured. But anyways, it seems as if it's ok because supposely, she has told him about me, but I have never met the guy, nor seen him. Funny sh!t. Anyways, I know I am attracted to her and she enjoys attention from attracted guys. She always finds me to give small talk. She talks to other guys, but why not invite them to lunch???

[misombra]

personally i wouldn't consider that cheating. you can't just stop interacting with people of the opposite sex because you're in a relationship. but hey, i have low standards.

[CBinKC]

It’s not cheating but woman is being disrespectful. It is disrespectful to a marriage to put oneself in temptation’s way. She could have found another way to thank a coworker than one that’s a potentially intimate setting.

Also, a person is supposed to love his/her spouse. To me, that means not doing things that might cause them unnecessary worry or reflect badly on them. All it would take is one mutual friend seeing you to cause a whole lot of pain and embarrassment. This isn’t a woman thinking about what is good for her husband or marriage.

By the way, if she’s that selfish and shortsighted, you don’t want to get involved with her anyway.

[IKnowEverything]

No one buys someone dinner unless they're expecting ass. At least I don't.

Keep investigating, because she's probably blowing him during coffee breaks.

Good Luck!

[sfalexi]

You guys don't understand the situation. So I'm gonna lay it down for you.

A married woman invited Nice Lover Boy to lunch. And paid. And didn't tell her husband that she invited him to lunch and paid for it.

NLB, I don't really see why you're posting this. You said multiple times that you've had affairs with married women but don't see it as a problem since YOU'RE not the one cheating. So do what you want. It's not like any of us saying "that's wrong" is gonna stop you.

Alexi

[Nice Lover Boy]

You guys don't understand the situation. So I'm gonna lay it down for you.

A married woman invited Nice Lover Boy to lunch. And paid. And didn't tell her husband that she invited him to lunch and paid for it.

NLB, I don't really see why you're posting this. You said multiple times that you've had affairs with married women but don't see it as a problem since YOU'RE not the one cheating. So do what you want. It's not like any of us saying "that's wrong" is gonna stop you.

Alexi

True Alexi, but I have seen the effect I have caused in marriages. And well, I am trying my best to set this one aside because she barely got married about 7 months ago. Not even a year and already she is curious about "someone".
But I am blinded by the signals and not paying any attention to this one because SOMEtimes, her focus is to socialize with other guys as well. Yes, I had other married women, but the other ones moved fast on me and this one seems to be in the "friendly zone". But I still believe that she is friendly because she has shared her past with me and it has compared to my life in results for me to care for her happiness as a friend. Trust me on this, I want to do things right and make sure she doesn't make a mistake with me. If I didn't care much for her and if she wouldn't of told me about her past, I would of been sharing my moments with her and building up my resume. Anyways, it's kind of creepy for her that she has never introduced me to her husband, but yet he knows that we work together and that is ALL that I heard about us. But best thing to do is talk to her about it. I'm just afraid that I might of made a mistake and she thought I was trying to "make myself look good" .