She called me later that nite to tell me she is trying to get her hands around our relationship, of course I was confused, but she said" your a good man with great heart, your decent and you treat me right, you treat me like a princess" my children love you my mother loves and other positive things, but says she does not feel the same way about me.
She sees a therapist who helped her get through her divorce
I'm glad she's starting to deal with her issues.
Her ex-husband was her best friend and high school sweetheart and her mother told me when he changed and it went sour , that Amy was devastated and hurt and very depressed about it.
And now it all comes together. Your girlfriend simply hasn't had enough boyfriends (and enough breakups) to learn coping skills. She sounds a bit naive, which is why she's confused. She also sounds very hurt by her divorce, anyone would be, but she is especially hurt because she got married so young. Marrying young is usually a bad sign. Some couples manage to make it work, most don't. The divorce rate for people who marry young is sky high.
So, yes she is probably not over her divorce, she probably still has issues from it, which would explain why she is confused. The issue here is, she is starting to deal with her insecurities, but this could take years? Do you really want to wait that long, alone, while she deals with her issues? Will she actually take it all the way and deal totally with the issues, or will she stop part way, due to financial, or other issues?
If it were me, I would move on. There are greener pastures somewhere else. Somewhere else, there are women who have dealt with their issues and are ready to love you. I've found them, you can too.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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