How did you fall in love?

[Miss_Navi]

You met someone... and you fell in love.

What I would like to ask, are just these few questions:

• What made you fall in love with them?
• How long did it take for you fall in love with them?
• How did you know that you were in love?
• How did you cope with the feelings of love, what did you do?
• How long did it last?

I can say that when I fell in love, my experience became instant. I was to be besotted and love sick for the next coming years, and I cannot stress enough that this is entirely true and if you don't believe me you might as well leave now...

From the moment I saw him, I noticed no flaws. He was older than me but I saw past that. He seemed perfect. I looked at his eyes, and my heart sunk my entire body. I looked at his significantly arched eyebrows, his perfectly straight and pointed nose, his lips with their sexy slight kink. I even looked at his slim, slender body and thought it was flawless and so sexy. There was nothing about him that I didn’t fall in love with.
He had black hair and up to that point, I hadn’t given a damn about hair colour but now black hair is one of the best features of a guy in my opinion.
I took one printed picture of him on holiday with me to France and all I remember of that holiday was just thinking about him. At night, I cried in my pillow because the strain of needing and wanting him was so unbearable. I enjoyed all alone time I had... so I could just think and fantasize about him. On car journeys I would look at the stars and picture him and wondered what he was doing at that moment in time, I imagined him flying through the air and running along the road with me. My heart sunk into my soul and I longed for him so badly.
I dreamt the most beautiful dreams about him, I saw his face in every film I watched, every song I heard, every story I read. Every second of Titanic made sense to me. I imagined him countless times in places and spaces and times and everything, I thought about him all the time every day for 4 years.
Being in love inspired me to draw (all my pictures were made of love and one was a portrait of him), to act, to paint, to talk about him in video blogs, to write stories, to describe my feelings and longing.
It was an obsession, but through it I found the deepest form of love for someone I can possibly imagine. He sculpted the way I see men, what I like, he became my base and for a long time I searched for someone who is like him.

Just so you know, a relationship with him would be impossible, and my feelings have died down a lot since this happened a few years ago now, but it changed my life.

So I am wondering, what have been your experiences?

[Primo]

You're not writing a lame e-book like Baz are you? :-P

[Miss_Navi]

You're not writing a lame e-book like Baz are you? :-P

No way, what happened to me is absolutely one hundred percent true

[tjwojo]

What happened to him? Why was a relationship impossible?

[Primo]

What you described is very intense and passionate Miss Navi, but it could've occurred between just you and the printed picture, not a real man.

Is this a part of some hazing process? :-P

[Mish]

I can say that when I fell in love, my experience became instant. I was to be besotted and love sick for the next coming years, and I cannot stress enough that this is entirely true and if you don't believe me you might as well leave now...

From the moment I saw him, I noticed no flaws. He was older than me but I saw past that. He seemed perfect. I looked at his eyes, and my heart sunk my entire body. I looked at his significantly arched eyebrows, his perfectly straight and pointed nose, his lips with their sexy slight kink. I even looked at his slim, slender body and thought it was flawless and so sexy. There was nothing about him that I didn’t fall in love with.

Sounds more like an infatuation than love to me. Have the two of you at least been out on a date?

[IndiReloaded]

Not like that. LOL.

[FullofSighs]

I say you were more obsessed with him than loved him. From what your saying you really didn't know him. How could you have loved him?

[ransom_nite]

To me you know it's real love when even after a few years you continue to get flutters and 'tummy spasms' (as I like to call them) when ever you're around them

[FullofSighs]

I say that's just shyness with a major crush.

[qwertz]

You met someone... and you fell in love.

What I would like to ask, are just these few questions:

• What made you fall in love with them?
  There wasnt one particular thing- i fell in love with whole package of him just being him
• How long did it take for you fall in love with them?
  It didnt take a certain amount of time..it just crept up on me after a while
• How did you know that you were in love?
  You just know- when you feel it you know.
• How did you cope with the feelings of love, what did you do?
  Nothing different- it is just a natural thing
• How long did it last?
  I was with him 3 years before i found out the man i fell in love with was based on lies and deception..so i was in fact, in love with a fraud...love can be great..but it can also be cruel

How old are you navi? It does sound like infatuation to me.

[Primo]

It sounds like she had a helluva time with that picture though, doesn't it?

She'd be great in an LDR. If you sent her a few 'good' pics she'd be sated for a decade or so, not to mention the mind-blowing phone sex and naughty emails

[Sanctuary]

Holy moly. What the? LOL.

I'll answer your questions though.

• What made you fall in love with them?
  
  She was pretty and had a nice personality that just fit what I was looking for.
  
  
• How long did it take for you fall in love with them?
  
  About a month?
  
  
• How did you know that you were in love?
  
  If someone 'better' (smarter, prettier, better personality) came along, I wouldn't have been interested.
  
  
• How did you cope with the feelings of love, what did you do?
  
  I had sex with her.
  
  
• How long did it last?
  
  About 3 and a half years and then the relationship itself ended like 7 months later.

[Aeradalia]

That's not love, that's infatuation bordering (or including) obsession. Such emotions are potentially dangerous for you and whoever you are infatuated with. Love is in moderation -- it doesn't remove your sense of independence or ability to think.

You met someone... and you fell in love.

What I would like to ask, are just these few questions:

• What made you fall in love with them?
  
  Certain qualities in their personality, necessary chemistry, in combination with a comfortable friendship.
  
  
• How long did it take for you fall in love with them?
  
  I was deeply infatuated with them about the 3 month mark, and was uncertain if it was love for a few months after that. It's nearly a year now, and I believe it's safe to say that I'm in love.
  
  
• How did you know that you were in love?
  
  Once the surge of infatuation was over, I still cared for them, drew comfort from their presence, still found them attractive (mentally, emotionally, and sexually), and did not wish to part from them.
  
  
• How did you cope with the feelings of love, what did you do?
  
  I talked to him about them and the relationship progressed.
  
  
• How long did it last?
  
  This relationship is current.