New to the forum, wondering if you can look at this person for me...v strange!

[wispa2675]

Hi there....

I have known this guy Chris for about 2 years, I met him at a local bar to myself,he is 6 years younger than me , I am 37, own job, car, house and great lifestyle/friends etc.....and we got on so well on first meeting. However his friend tried to go out with me but he was 10 years younger and I wasnt interested at all then Chris moved in on me.... Since that night we went out on say 2 dates but I wasnt really sure as he was in and out of jobs as a fitness trainor and he was still living at home, but not happy, he was travelling and I felt he wasnt settled in life either. He was calling me consistently when we met up 2 years ago after our first date, like 10 texts every hour, calling one after the other and it put me right off him, so I told him look please cut the texts and the calls, I still like you but need time and I am so busy as well, so we went our separate ways and I met someone else, dated him for 1 year and a half and then was single again.

This time Chris comes back about a month ago, asking me to meet up, so we did and it was nice, we went out about 3/4 times as he has still been after me and texts every now and again and he now has a stable job, car (he didnt previously) and is more settled...then last week, we go out for dinner, end up kissing, he comes over to mine and we end up having sex....now...here comes the problem...afterwards strange atmosphere..he shot up very quickly and said he doesnt like lying around naked and he doesnt feel confident about his body even though a great physique, then goes on to say that he has been chasing me for ages and constantly fantazing about me to then go on to say that I have him right where I want him and does this hand movement saying I have him under my thumb? As he goes out the door that night he says, dont put me under any spell so I am falling for you will you?? as I STOOD there shocked by all these comments, not knowing what to say, he said he would text the next day... which he did and the next 2 days, but not really any emotion attached it and I dont contact him ever...very wary after that night.... but we havent agreed to meet again, however he said it would be nice to...I have never chased him in the past nor really wanted to text him ....just thought there is an attraction, see what happens that night and nothing else really....

.....however after sleeping together he is angry and its left me thinking "what was that all about!" - he also asked me if I ever wanted to get married a week before this happened...I said well its a long way off, I like my lifestyle and its hard to gauge at the moment....

From what I know of him, he hasnt been in any long term relationships, he is 31, the last girl he told me about he said he liked her, she wanted to see him more, he said he was too busy she got upset and met someone else, to which he was upset about, I said well you obviously didnt like her enough to make her think to stay...he agreed....strange?!?

thanks for reading
still confused...not sure if I like him but I can certainly say our friendship has changed completely now.....forever...

xx

[bulrush]

Sounds like he had some physical attraction to you but can't handle the emotions. Sounds like he has some self-esteem problems. Just because he looks great doesn't mean he is confident.

[Wakeup]

Sounds like he'll call again when he's horny. He's setting you up for booty.
First rule of booty calls:
1. No cuddling after sex.


What, if anything do you want from this encounter? I also wonder why you wouldn't have communicated all this to him before he left to get the answer(s) you're looking for.

not sure if I like him but I can certainly say our friendship has changed completely now.....forever...

What friendship. You went your separate ways over a year ago and haven't been the definition of friends since.

[UdoKier]

Sounds like he'll call again when he's horny. He's setting you up for booty.
First rule of booty calls:
1. No cuddling after sex

I was thinking more like potential stalker. Does the booty call handbook say its ok to talk about love and marriage after sex for the very first time, but absolutely no cuddling under any circumstance?

[Boisdevie]

He's 31 and until recently was living at home - wierd.
Never had a serious relationship before - wierd.

[Wakeup]

I was thinking more like potential stalker. Does the booty call handbook say its ok to talk about love and marriage after sex for the very first time, but absolutely no cuddling under any circumstance?

No, but the playa handbook rules say make sure you keep them confused and thinking about you. (the general you) He's certainly doing that right. I've based my opinion on his current behaviour, I think he's changed his M.O. from two years ago.

he has been chasing me for ages and constantly fantazing about me

hunt, chase, conquer, done deal!

All speculation of course as is every opinion to come. She should have gotten her answers from him and then waited to see if his actions match the words. She said nothing though *shrugs* Besides, he asked her if she ever wanted to get married before he schtuuped her, not after he did. I took that as a simple queery about her dating goals in general.