Were both going to different law schools about 6 hours apart. She broke up with me two months in because she couldn't handle the distance and it really hurt me. I know she put genuine effort into our relationship nearing the end while I neglected it due to my general absentmindedness and disorganization. After break up I was super sad but definitely learned a lot about myself during that time. Realized that I really resented the person I had become and often took it out by being passively condescending to people close to me. I'm now developing a much more positive outlook on life and feel 100x more capable of accomplishing my personal goals and pursuing my own interests.
So about a month after the initial break up she initiates contact with me and we start texting. By her tone it is quite clear to me that she still has feelings for me and probably wants to develop a romantic relationship again. I still have feelings for her as well and I think she could be "the one" for me but i have a few issues. I want to make sure our relationship doesn't turn into what it used to be, which, after gaining a little perspective by spending some time apart, i don't think it will.
The thing I am struggling with the most is the possibility that she slept with someone else during our break. I don't yet know if she did or not, but if she did I'm not sure how I'll feel about trying to work things out with that looming over me. Especially because she initiated the break up, it feels a little sketch to me. If she didn't i will for sure get back together with her, but if she did, is that a justifiable excuse? I mean, we weren't dating at the time so it wouldn't be "cheating". What do you think?