Well I've been dating this girl for around eight months or so now, I am head over heels for her. I love her with all my heart and would seriously do anything for her. I've been noticing as of late that she lies about everything, to the point where it just snowballs into some big huge obvious lie. Here are a few examples:
When we first met, she told me that she was a Virgin. A few months down the road we started getting intimate with each other and we had sex. I instantly discovered that she was not a virgin (well she didnt bleed or anything so i gave her the benefit of the doubt seeing as some women dont bleed their first time.) Also some guy would call her often and such and she would say it was her "cousin" etc etc, she'd talk to him in front of me and stuff like that, i thought it was her "cousin". A few weeks down the road i find that it's her ex-boyfriend and that she lost her virginity to him etc etc. I was deeply hurt.
My girlfriend got a credit card recently, with a generous credit limit. I told her she should only use it for emergencies and stuff etc etc. She said "you're right" and gave it to me for safe keeping. About a week or two later, she says,"my mom doesnt feel secure with you haveing my credit card etc etc" and so she asks for it back...I willingly gave it to her, its her card and i thought she was really giving it to her parents. About a week or so i found out that she owes about $500 on it. Mind you she doesnt have a job.She got a bunch of new clothes and other stuff for her birthday and said that her mom had given her the money for it. I know for a fact that her mom didnt, seeing as her family is going through tough times at the moment. So I asked her about her card and stuff and if she'd been using it just to test her out, she replies "I only owe about thirty five dollars, I put gas in my car and got food and such" Yet another Blatant lie.
My girlfriend still talks to her ex boyfriend, He lives in california, and we live in texas. A few Days before christmas, i was getting her some ringtones for her phone and glanced at her text messages. Just being a little curious. Anyways, there was a text from her ex saying that he got her a cd for christmas and that he was mailing it to her and stuff. No big deal. A few days after christmas, she gets the package i already knew about. When she got it out of the mailbox she tried to hide it and stuff, I went to work, then afterwards i stopped by her house for a little while. SHe was listening to the cd her got her. I was like wow awesome cd cause it's one of my favorite bands. So i asked her who got it for her and she said "Oh my parents got it for me at target, my dad had such a hard time finding it, and i cant believe they got it etc etc" about twenty minutes later i confronted her about it and told her i knew about it all along. She said she didnt want to hurt my feelings or make me jealous. I could seriously have cared less about the cd or who gave it to her, just the fact that she made up such an extreme story really got to me. Another Blatant lie.....
i could go on and on with examples.
As of late i've been catching her in lies quite often. Ill ask her about something in her stories that doesnt and up and she quickly gets defensive, and tries to make it seem like im the one who doesnt understand. Like im the bad guy. When this happens she's quick to jump to the conclusion that "she's not good enough for me" and "that she just hurts me" and that i "should find a better girl" She's a terrible liar. I think its almost to the point where she believes her own lies or doesnt know that she's lieing. In the lies that i've caught her in and confronter her she says she's done it because she doesnt want to hurt me, or make me mad. I've told her that her lies only make things worse....... I really dont know what to do. I really love this girl, She's an amazing person. But i find myself trusting her less and less and I find it hard to believe things that she says most of the time. Im not the jealous type, and i do everything i can to make her happy, but sometimes i just feel lost and unsure about our relationship, mainly due to her constant untruthfulness.I would love to be with this girl for the rest of my life, but i really dont know what to say or do. I dont want to live a lie and i dont want to lie to myself anymore.... what should i do?
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*edit* I don't want to break up with her, she's told me quite a few times that if she cant be with me that she doesnt deserve to live etc etc .
she told me that "she'd kill herself just to prove how much she loves me"
This is such a scary thought, i almost cannot fathom it.
I seriously dont know what to do ...
suggestions anyone?