Originally Posted by
DalM0m
I am so sorry for your loss. Are you in a grief group ? I'm told they help.
It's good that you remember the happier times but you're right they can make the loss feel so much more acute & profound.
Because you have kids, I think for your birthday you need to put on a happy face. Your wife would not want you to be sad for the kids.
When my mom died, I did not know how to comfort my father. I ended up taking him on a lot of trips. I figured changing the scenery would involve less sense memories from his environment. It seemed to bring him moments of . . . I'm not going to say happiness but of less grief.
Hang in there.