Suggestions

[Cain]

In order to avoid confusion, I'd like to post this thread so people know exactly what I'm looking for.

Alright, on to the romantic note a little bit. I'm up for receiving some ideas from you women. Things have gone surprisingly well with this new girl. It's amazing how much more my type she is than my ex was. Anyways, just as I was talking to multiple women before her, she was talking to multiple men. Not that she was off having sex with everyone, but that there were a few guys she was interested in. And she pretty much told me tonight, without actually telling me directly, that she was going to choose me. We are just waiting for her to get back from winter vacation and see what happens. But she mentioned that she's not looking forward to telling these other guys that she isn't looking anymore because she doesn't want to hurt anyone.

She lives a distance away, but a much smaller distance than my ex. It's an easy drive and I'll be going over there in January. Since I don't really know the area, she's going to be planning the dates, etc... I'd still like to have something planned though, so I was wondering about any ideas you women might have. One thing I suggested was cooking dinner together one of the nights. She has a roommate, so I figure inviting the roommate to have some of the food would be nice as well because I'd be befriending a close friend of hers so I'd be winning on two fronts. And apparently, if there's a party that weekend which she's not sure of, I'd likely be meeting most of her friends that night, including some that like her. Joyful!

Anyways, yeah. Date ideas are needed. Fun suggestions as well.

[DoesntMatter]

Take her to a Star Trek convention

[Cain]

I guess I should clarify.

I don't want shitty date ideas.

[DoesntMatter]

Wow Cain. Eat a dick

[Cain]

Wow Cain. Eat a dick

Stop cluttering my thread.

BTW, why aren't you on AIM?

[DoesntMatter]

I just signed on asshole

[ecojeanne]

crazy golf?

i was wondering tho why she would mention other guys she had been interested in, the only reason i would think that she mentioned this was to keep you hanging on like a good doggie, did she actually use the word 'choose'? i wouldn't have verbalised that to someone i was interested in coz it would seem like i was trying to manipulate him and i wouldn't want him to think that. i might make him think other guys were interested by mentioning chats i may have had but nothing about choosing, do you feel on edge a little with her at all?

maybe i'm reading too deep.

[Charlie Boy II]

concerts are always good. As are nice restaurants she has never been to before. I always try to go for activities and things the girl might not have done before. Especially if it's something you might have some skill at and showcases a side of your life she may not have seen.

For example, teaching a girl how to surf is one I've used quite a bit over the years.

[1averagejoe]

concerts are always good. As are nice restaurants she has never been to before. I always try to go for activities and things the girl might not have done before. Especially if it's something you might have some skill at and showcases a side of your life she may not have seen.

For example, teaching a girl how to surf is one I've used quite a bit over the years.

I agree...something original is always good. Like an event that's happening in town that only happens every so often. How far away does this girl live? You have a tendency to chose long distance relationships don't you? lol

Charlie, want to teach me to surf?

I've wanted to learn since I was in middle school. Never really bought one. Always decided to buy other stuff...like paintball, photograph stuff, and now my bike.

[Cain]

crazy golf?

i was wondering tho why she would mention other guys she had been interested in, the only reason i would think that she mentioned this was to keep you hanging on like a good doggie, did she actually use the word 'choose'? i wouldn't have verbalised that to someone i was interested in coz it would seem like i was trying to manipulate him and i wouldn't want him to think that. i might make him think other guys were interested by mentioning chats i may have had but nothing about choosing, do you feel on edge a little with her at all?

maybe i'm reading too deep.

I don't see anything wrong with what she did. In fact, I was doing the same thing. I was seeing other girls at once until I found someone I most clicked with. That's what I think she was doing. And when I found out about the other guys, I told her I wasn't going to be competing. I told her that there were far too many girls out there for me to be doing that. I think she told me because she actually wanted to be with me.

I don't feel on edge with her at all. We've had lots of great conversation and she just fits. We click really well.

[Cain]

She's only a two hour drive. Nothing huge.

Since I don't know the area well, I'm not sure what I can really do there. I know that she wants to go to a few NBA games with me, so we're trying to figure out which ones would be best.

And she wants to take me to a driving range and teach me how to play golf since I never have. Well, besides mini golf.

[ecojeanne]

thats cool cain!

here's a list i found on the internet, if don't find one idea in here then i dunno hehe

1. Dinner and a movie (obviously!)
2. Go ice skating together
3. Enjoy a romantic dinner by your nearest lake/river/ocean
4. Check out your local museum
5. Attend a poetry reading
6. Karaoke!
7. Try ballroom dancing lessons
8. Popcorn and a DVD at home
9. Go cross country skiing
10. Read together by the fireplace
11. Take a hike through the local scenery
12. Go clubbing!
13. Plan a scavenger hunt for each other
14. Charades
15. Spend a night at the theatre
16. Plan a poker night for couples
17. Go horseback riding
18. Try camping together
19. Frisbee in the park
20. Check out an Art-house flick
21. Plan a special theme night & menu – eg: ‘A Night in India’
22. Go shopping together!
23. Snuggle up for cuddles on the couch with hot cocoa
24. Go downhill skiing, and enjoy the après-ski!
25. Be a tourist in your own city - grab a map and see the sights
26. Spend an afternoon writing letters to each other and mail them
27. Try learning a new language together
28. Go to the recycling plant, and do your part to save the world!
29. Board games boring? Nah! Try Scrabble or Yahtzee!
30. Find the local beach and take a long walk, hand-in-hand. Not recommended in winter!
31. Attend a cool music festival
32. Go for mini-makeovers at a spa
33. Throw a cocktail party
34. Share a newspaper at your local coffee shop
35. Check out the Farmer’s Market
36. Go bowling!
37. Attend an orchestral performance
38. Volunteer at a local charity event
39. Hot tubbin’!
40. Bake a cake or cookies together
41. Ice-skating
42. Get Arty – try painting/drawing a portrait of your beau
43. A hot-air balloon ride
44. Hire a barber shop quartet and send them to his/her home or workplace
45. Attend a wine or beer tasting event
46. Check out the Opera
47. Go “garage-sale-ing” on a Saturday morning
48. Make smoothies and sit out in the sun
49. Watch TV re-runs
50. Have a cutesy pyjama party, just you and him/her
51. Try a new international restaurant - Japanese, Egyptian, or Caribbean?
52. Attend a fashion show
53. Take a day trip, get outside of your town or city
54. Go to the zoo!
55. Fly a kite in the afternoon sun
56. Attend a charity gala or ball
57. Try yoga and get flexible!
58. Have a BBQ
59. Go to the arena to watch a hockey game
60. Do pottery, à la Ghost
61. Check out the local jazz club
62. Play pick-up soccer or basketball in the park
63. Celebrate the holidays - St. Patrick's Day, July 4th, New Year's... etc.
64. Go sailing
65. People-watch at the local mall
66. Have pedicures and manicures together
67. Grab an architecture book and learn about the designs in your area
68. Embrace the lounge scene
69. Attend your high school reunion with your date
70. Hang out and listen to each other’s CD collection
71. Wrestling match?
72. Pub/bar crawl
73. Have another first date - pretend you’ve just met
74. Hit golf balls at the driving range
75. Go paint-balling (could be messy)
76. Dress up and paint the town red
77. Get a telescope and watch for shooting stars
78. Go to an art gallery
79. Go swimming!
80. Be truly adventurous – skydive
81. Check out a cultural event - like Greekfest
82. Visit your families!?! No pressure!
83. Feed the ducks/pigeons/birds
84. Go bargain hunting at a flea market
85. Try kayaking
86. Go for ice cream sundaes
87. Paddle-boating
88. Saturday night at the drive-in!
89. Water-balloon fight on a hot summer’s day/snowball fight on a cold winter’s day
90. Do a puzzle
91. Plant a garden
92. Play pool or billiards
93. Trampolining
94. Dine on champagne and strawberries under the stars
95. As a team, cook a home-cooked dinner for two
96. Hang ten! (if you live near surfable ocean waves)
97. Go-kart racing
98. Anyone for tennis? Perhaps a table-tennis competition…
99. Share your dreams and hopes for the future
100. A soak in the tub, then a quart of Rocky Road
101. Support the college/local sports team – Go ‘fill in the blank’!
102. Play videogames together
103. Disco dance fever – who’s the greatest dancer?
104. Borrow a camcorder and make a mini-movie for your sweetheart. Eat your heart out, Spielberg!
105. Test drive a new sports car
106. Wax his back and her legs – ouch!
107. Relive the 80’s
108. Build something together - like a bird house for his/her place
109. Baby-sit for some friends
110. Have milk and cookies together
111. Play doctor and nurse
112. Rearrange the furniture in your apartment for fun
113. Start jogging
114. Enter a marathon!
115. Do facials together
116. Go on a safari
117. Go to a casino
118. Share a good book
119. Throw a costume party!
120. Go for high tea and scones
121. Sing a duet at a talent contest
122. Rock out in a mosh pit
123. Assemble IKEA furniture, as a bonding experience
124. Ride a mechanical bull – yeehaa!
125. Kiss each other 365 times
126. Go berry picking
127. Go to the gym and get fit together
128. Scuba diving
129. Write a poem about your feelings for him/her
130. Give a homemade token for ‘one free hug’
131. Order take-out, and chill
132. Wake up and watch the sunrise together
133. Catch the sunset later that same day
134. Pretend it’s a black out, and have a romantic candlelit experience
135. Visit a theme park, like Disney World
136. Go to a water park, like Wet & Wild
137. Check out an auction – even bid on a few items!
138. Re-enact the balcony scene from Romeo & Juliet
139. Have a breakfast-brunch date
140. See the horses at the race track
141. Have fun browsing at a book or magazine store
142. Create a special piñata, containing treats specifically for your date – like a set of diamond earrings, posh chocolates, or their favorite band’s new CD
143. Throw pennies in a fountain and make a wish
144. Learn about the history of your home town, and share it with each other
145. Go to Chinatown
146. Walk a friend’s pet dog
147. Go for a ‘road trip’!
148. Pour their breakfast cereal into a heart-shaped bowl
149. Go RV’ing
150. Try boxing
151. Make your own chocolate
152. Make and play your own version of ‘The Dating Game’
153. Tell stories around a camp fire and roast marshmallows
154. Go for a horse-drawn carriage ride
155. Attend a city-council meeting or political debate
156. Bird watching
157. Watch late night TV, from Leno/Letterman to bad movies at 3a.m.
158. Buy your date a teddy bear and sew your name onto it, to always remind them of you
159. Surprise him/her with a romantic fondue
160. Pamper them for the day
161. Go canoeing
162. Have a pizza party
163. Can’t decide where to go for a day trip? Stick a pin in a map, and explore!
164. Hunt for chocolate eggs at Easter
165. Clean the environment for Earth Day
166. Share scary ghost stories at Halloween
167. Make banana splits at home
168. Send 20 red roses
169. Try a game of darts
170. Name a star or constellation after your date
171. Phone a radio station and send out a dedication
172. Visit a Hallmark card shop and show each other the cards you would buy
173. Send them a postcard saying Wish You Were Here – even if you live in the same town!
174. Go to a home and garden show
175. Leave a trail of clues throughout their apartment that lead them to you

[ecojeanne]

176. Do the cucaracha
177. Go to the fairground
178. Make beautiful music together – by learning to play the piano or guitar!
179. Try ‘Open Mike’ night
180. Coordinate your wardrobes, so that you match during dates
181. Do a crossword
182. Create a romantic crossword with special clues for words about you, and your relationship
183. Take a factory or winery tour
184. Knit him/her a scarf or sweater
185. Rent motorcycles together
186. Get a map of the world and decide where you would like to travel, and show your date where you’ve been already
187. Search for groundhogs on Feb 2nd
188. Give neck massages
189. Go window-shopping
190. Parasailing down a cliff
191. Enjoy a round of miniature golf
192. Try glow-in-the-dark mini golf
193. Serenade her / him with a love ballad
194. Call from a cell phone to say you miss them, then surprise them when you knock at their front door seconds later
195. Rent a cottage for a weekend getaway
196. Go for a bike ride…
197. Try something that’s new for both of you
198. Plan your lives together
199. Enjoy a bubble-bath together
200. Have your fortunes read… what does fate have in store for you both?
201. Take a helicopter ride
202. Spend the day taking pictures of each other
203. Then develop them together
204. Visit a wax museum
205. Don’t forget to celebrate your birthdays
206. And anniversaries
207. Surprise them with two plane/coach/train tickets, tucked inside a travel guide about your romantic date destination
208. Have a foreign film night, complete with exotic foods, drink, and dress
209. Play hooky and take the day off work together
210. Grab some peanuts and feed the squirrels
211. A spontaneous date – just go with your instincts
212. Treat yourselves to a night at a fancy hotel
213. Check out a basketball game
214. Go bungee-jumping
215. Adopt a pet
216. Visit a planetarium
217. Check out Improv night at your community theatre centre
218. Go on a quest to find the best ‘X’ in town (eg: hot chocolate, onion rings, burgers…)
219. Have a book swap
220. Check out your town’s murals or stylish graffiti
221. Play hair-stylist for the day and try new styles out on each other
222. Have an un-birthday! (because 364 days a year it’s your un-birthday)
223. Shop for lingerie
224. Visit the aquarium
225. Pick up some essential oils and create your own perfume/cologne
226. Wine and cheese soiree
227. Do a walk-a-thon for charity
228. Play in a toy store
229. Go to a church, temple or your house of worship together
230. Gaze up at the clouds and share what objects you can see in the clouds
231. Get matching cowboy boots
232. Send them a card/letter every day for a week, in the build-up to a special date
233. Share your dreams with each other
234. Go rock climbing
235. Try a strolling dinner date – walk a downtown street and eat only from the street vendors
236. Grab an umbrella and go for a walk on a rainy day
237. Visit a petting zoo
238. Get henna tattoos (or real ones if you’re daring!)
239. Learn the art of the striptease for a sexy surprise
240. Go to a comedy club
241. Invent a cocktail and name it together
242. ‘Google’ each other’s names
243. Plan a holiday together
244. Go through childhood photos of each other
245. And then share more recent ones – high school, college, and last year’s too
246. Volunteer at a soup kitchen for Thanksgiving
247. Dress up and go to a Star Trek convention (or any other convention)
248. Send in the clowns! Dress up as clowns and visit the children’s ward of your local hospital
249. Create a fireworks display in the name of love
250. Play catch in the park
251. Go for a statue hunt – find out who’s been immortalized in stone
252. Check out a dragon boat race – or even participate in one!
253. Grab your glow sticks and check out the newest nightclub
254. Visit a botanical garden, and get an unusual plant or flower as a gift for your date
255. Dress up and pretend to be a famous couple
256. Check out an erotica shop
257. Spend a day in the countryside, enjoying fresh air, and the green space
258. Have a tea party – try bubble tea, green tea, and herbal teas
259. Learn the art of Ashiatsu (giving a massage with you feet)
260. Indulge in candy – visit your nearest candy shop
261. Have a tumble in the mud, or a roll in the hay
262. Afterwards, do laundry together!
263. Visit an aviary
264. Play pinball in a video arcade
265. Sunbathe, or visit a tanning salon, and get matching tans!
266. Learn how to belly-dance
267. Surprise them with breakfast in bed
268. Play ‘Truth or Dare’
269. Audition to be extras in a movie
270. Laugh - tell your honey some new jokes
271. Explore the Fringe Festival when it comes to your area
272. Share your naughty fantasies and/or fetishes
273. Then act them out!!
274. Grab some bongos and drums and enjoy the rhythms you create
275. Enjoy a game of touch football
276. Search a thrift store for interesting finds
277. Re-visit the place where you first met
278. Send your date a cell phone text message declaring your love
279. Try white water rafting
280. Play squash!
281. Party like it’s 1999!!!
282. Check out a rhythm and blues club
283. Re-decorate your bedroom together
284. Go to the circus
285. What about a game of Bingo?!
286. Celebrate Mardi Gras
287. Watch the 6 "Star Wars" movies back-to-back
288. Watch the entire "Lord of the Rings" trilogy too
289. Then, to compensate, have a chick-flick movie marathon
290. Get fit together at aerobics!
291. Play beach volleyball in the sand
292. Carve something out of wood for your date - how about a romantic, traditional Welsh ‘love spoon’?
293. Get tickets to a rodeo – yeehaa!
294. Show your support – wear a ribbon supporting your charity
295. Make your boy/girlfriend feel welcome - clear out a drawer for their toothbrush and personal items
296. Go for an annual doctor’s check-up together – have a healthy heart for your mate
297. Smooch in the back row of a movie
298. Watch a parade
299. See a musical
300. Share a piggy bank – and save money for a ‘rainy day’ date 301. Be antique hunters for the day
302. Say checkmate to your mate – play Chess
303. Go to a shooting range together for target practice
304. Or shoot clay pigeons
305. Get political and help out with a campaign (if you support the same party!)
306. Record a personalized answering machine message together
307. Draw a treasure map and get your date to locate a hidden gift
308. Try badminton
309. Write a story together
310. Create a pizza – one half your favorite toppings, and the other half theirs
311. Take time out for a hug
312. Write a cutesy message on their fridge with magnetic alphabet letters
313. Go on a ‘rock hunt’ - head for the hills and search for semi-precious gems and fossils
314. Try acupuncture
315. Play cupid and throw a single’s party for all your single friends
316. Surprise your date with tickets to their favorite band or singer
317. Have a break -- After 316 dating ideas, you’ve earned a day off!
318. Check out a science centre
319. Go out for a gourmet coffee
320. Make a mix tape or CD of your favorite songs
321. Surprise them by downloading a digital photo of you two, and adding it as the wallpaper background on their computer or cell phone
322. Visit a playground, and play on the swings, slide, and teeter-totter
323. Surf your favorite sites online
324. Visit an astrologist and see if your star signs are compatible
325. Mow ‘I love you’ into their lawn
326. Make a scrapbook of your memorable dates
327. Explore the rock pools and riverbeds for shells and little creatures
328. Join the Mile High Club!
329. Share a tandem bike
330. Take a relaxing cruise
331. Get steamy in the sauna
332. Try water-skiing
333. Make snow/sand angels
334. Print a novelty newspaper with a headline declaring your love
335. Play hockey
336. Then place a bet on a hockey game!
337. Climb a mountain
338. Share a milkshake with two straws
339. Make a tee-shirt saying ‘I love (your date’s name)’
340. Tour the city on a double-decker bus
341. Attend a NASCAR race, and feel the speed
342. Hang out with your friends
343. Then, hang out with his/her friends
344. Have a pot-luck, and invite a few buddies
345. Be patriotic – sing the national anthem and fly a flag
346. Check out the local library
347. Go caving!
348. Come up with 365 dating ideas for next year
349. “Sleep with the fishes” – spend the night in an underwater hotel
350. Keep a journal of your dates, and then share the journal on your anniversary
351. Meet your beau at the top of the CN Tower
352. Play a game of dominos
353. Get lost together
354. Go to the mall, then split up and spend a maximum of $15 on a gift for one another
355. Enjoy a classic candlelit dinner
356. Take a judo or kung-fu class
357. Explore your wild side – lose your inhibitions and let your instincts guide you
358. Watch Saturday morning cartoons
359. Share with your date what qualities you love about them
360. Have a sand castle competition
361. Salsa all night long
362. Or even Merengue if you like faster beats
363. Go on a dessert date – and split the biggest, most indulgent dessert on the menu!
364. Go to Hawaii and fly over a live volcano
365. See a 3D Movie

[vashti]

Live theater is great. If money is an issue, community theater events are often quite good.

[Gigabitch]

I recommend doing stuff with her and her friends. You want to bond with the group, not just her. This will provide social support for your relationship that will help the two-hour distance be less of a problem.

I know it sounds dorky, but playing Pictionary is really fun. Also, having theme dinner-and-a-movie night is good (like everyone brings Italian food and you watch the Godfather).