I am the girlfriend.
Please help me to decide if I am asking too much of my BF.
We have been together 4 years. Most of that time he was a married man living separately from his wife, while working through a divorce. He is a business owner and did not want to piss his wife off during the divorce, so our relationship has been a secret. They have now been divorced 4 months. As part of the divorce agreement, she works for him in the business. He is worried about her getting angry about him dating me, so I am still a secret to both her and their 20 year old son. His older son knows as do other friends. He is a great guy and we get along well, but keeping me hidden after all these years really bothers me. He wants to wait until more time passes before he slowly brings me into the picture. She calls him when I am there and he evades that I am around. I don't come over to his house unless his son is gone.
I've been waiting so long to have a normal relationship. Am I being too demanding to not want to tolerate this secret relationship any longer? He thinks I am being unreasonable. That he is doing this for us and his business.
We are both in our 50's.