Hi
I have a peculiar problem.
Am 29 yr old professional, never been in a relationship and have just been bitten by the love bug, looking for some honest/mature advice here.
About 6 months back, I met a guy at a wedding and we instantly hit it off-same likings, thoughts, nature & amazing compatability.
We kept in touch through emails and chats, he came across very honest in his feelings and often regretted not having met me before as his past is full of broken relationships with cranky women, the last one being with a single mom having two kids.
She had approached him when he was undergoing a break-up from his previous relationship, in the course of which, they became pretty close.
Its been 5 years and now-he wants to move ahead with his life as he feels he has been in it only because of his sympathetic nature and has been financially helping her & her kids. Even now, she keeps tormenting him to come back to her and keeps stalking him(they both live in the same country).
He has confessed his feelings for me and wants to spend his life with me-awfully honest about his present status and has asked me to give him some time to move on from his previous relationship. Reason of concern here is that his ex is suicidal and very clingy-she even called me couple of times to wade me off from this situation.
But-I have kept my cool so far and have been supportive-come-understanding from his perspective.
This is another reason he wants me to be with him in his life. However, his conscience doesn’t allow him to break off completely as of now from his ex.
Am a bit confused here cause I truly love this guy-even though we have had only a long distance relationship and have been talking over the phone or the video chatting, I feel he is being honest in making an effort to make a change in his life & needs me to be around.
However, I too want to be in a relationship and it makes me really jealous thinking he is so concerned for his ex. Also, am a bit worried thinking what if all his ex-girlfriends appear in future, will it not make me insecure and suicidal as well?
I think am a mature woman but when it comes to this situation of love and relationships, am not very sure if am correct in my thinking.
Please advise as my friends think I should just leave him and move on.
Woman in love,
Me