pictures of ex girlfriend

[confusedlover10]

OK I have a dilemma...i've been with my boyfriend who i love very much for over a year. We are usually really happy...lately i have noticed that he is watching a lot more porn, and recently i went on his computer to check my email and was shocked to see a huge picture of a vagina open. When I confronted him about it...he told me that it was a picture of his ex-gf and that he hasn't opened them in a long time...that it must have been a virus that opened it. I want to believe him, even though it is so far fetched. I just do not understand...am I doing something wrong? My girlfriends are telling me this is a red flag and that I should not be with him because of it...

[Gigabitch]

Your girlfriends are right about one thing. It's a red flag. I don't know if it's dumpworthy. His lame-ass explanation might be, though.

Farfetched, for sure. What a ridiculous thing to say. Right. His computer has a virus that just happens to go in and open vag pics of his ex. Horrifyingly stupid fumble on his part. Does he really think keeping intimate pics of his ex sounds better than looking at random porn?

The guy has the right to look at porn. Guys do this. It's okay, and it's no comment on you, but he should be a LOT more discreet about it and not make up dumb shit about computer viruses when he gets busted.

[davidtorres]

sounds like your bf is fantasizing his ex. ask yourself why is he doing this? are u not sexy enough? do you suck in bed?

[SirWagginston]

You know, I'm a guy, and I think it's wrong to look at porn if you have a girlfriend. I'm not religious or anything; I'm actually a remarkably impure person in many other ways (drugs, alcohol). I just think it's disrespectful, and will only do it if we're away from each other for a while, and she's unwilling to have phone sex or exchange naughty images.

[Coco]

I agree with Wagginston. It's unacceptable behavior and I would ditch him.

[vashti]

if the owner of the vagina was unidentifiable, i would classify it the same as any other porn. No need to go get hysterical about it.

[SirWagginston]

if the owner of the vagina was unidentifiable, i would classify it the same as any other porn. No need to go get hysterical about it.

But if the vagina does not belong to his ex, then her boyfriend is a liar. Which do you think is worse?

[vashti]

Why would he lie about it belonging to his ex?

[tufty]

who cares who it belongs to - just make sure yours is in better shape.....lol

[juliep123]

My guy keeps pictures of all his exes. He says its memories of his life and shit. Is this something to worry about or should I trust him. It kind of bothers me.

[abelee]

Let me share my experience. I'm a guy and at one point, I thought nothing of keeping pics of my ex in my comp. Until one day, my gf found them and she hit the roof. I learned one important thing that day. Guys and girls think very
differently on this matter. To me, pics of my ex mean nothing much but to her, it's like the end of the world has come. So because I love my present gf, I deleted all the pics (digital and hard copy).

Don't believe the BS about the virus. If you really mean everything to him, ask him to delete those pics. As a gentleman and if he's serious about your relationship, he would do it. If he does not, then I think your girlfriends are right.
It's a red flag. I know I may make some macho guys out there really upset with my opinions (not intended, guys) but this is just my humble opinion.

[VincenzoG91]

Why would he lie about it belonging to his ex?

It would be much worse if it belonged to his mother.

[SirWagginston]

I dispose of pictures of my exes of my own volition. Having pictures of them makes them harder to forget about.

[iateyourcookie]

I agree with SirWagginston.

But why would your boyfriend lie about having your ex-gf's vag pic? Most important question here is: why is he still keeping them? It's one thing to keep a pic of her face, but her body part?

[confusedlover10]

Yes it was definitely picture of the ex girlfriend...he had a whole folder of them that he said he was keeping "for ransom" since she was crazy in case she did anything weird...but he offered himself to delete all of them and did it right in front of me...still just makes me feel inadequate that he is looking at them in the first place and then lying to me about it. I guess just a close up picture of body parts is better than one with her face in it? Still struggling with dealing with this and getting the picture out of my mind...thanks for all of the advice, its definitely helpful to hear opinions.