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    Got cancelled on twice in less than a week!

    I got cancelled on twice by the same girl. Today, she cancelled on me for the second time. It took her about 10 texts to let everything out. I was quiet and then all I said was "sianara!"

    She told me she was dating someone on the side and she said I'm amazing blablabla (like that hasn't been said before to anyone), but she met someone before me and didn't think things would have progressed this way.

    I'm just ranting. I'm still a little pissed, but I think I handled it well.

    I can't believe I didn't trust my instincts on this one. I was anxious all of last night and today, I just didn't know why.

    This is what the convo was:

    Me: We on for tonight?

    (No response for a few hours)

    Her: Hm idk how to put this. I would call but I have two interviews interviews in a few mins. Before you, I met someone and didn't think it was going anywhere and it sort of has.

    Her: I don't know how it progressed to this point where its not fair to anyone to not say anything.

    Her: You are beyond amazing and this is really hard for me and you deserve someone incredible.

    Her: Not a girl too confused to make up her mind and too scared to hurt ppls feelings in the process.

    Her: I'm so sorry Chris. I really like you.

    Me: Sianara.

    I don't plan on talking to her ever again. I'm just pissed she wasted my time.
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    hmm.. I thought she was just about as nice as she could be, given the circumstances. At least she told you before you laid out any money.
    Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?

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    Yeah, I'm so glad I didn't waste money on her.
    Last edited by Raze; 20-07-10 at 05:31 AM.
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    oh, boo hoo. A pretty girl flirted with you, and got your hopes up. So what?

    You are going to have to learn to roll with the punches a little better if you don't want to drive yourself crazy. She was never obligated to go out with you once she decided on someone else.
    Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?

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    Well, nonetheless, I think I handled it well.

    Your right!
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    There are TONS of girls like that.

    lol @ the "not knowing what she wants" line.

    A confused girl is completely worthless in terms of pursuing.

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    man, I feel ya Raze. She did waste your time. I think the reason you're pissed is not because she wasted your time, it's because she kinda lied to you and she wasted your time. You ask, how did she lie Sir? Well, She was dating you and another guy right? This entire time, she was simply comparing you 2 guys back and fourth to see which "one" she wanted to pursue. Absolutely nothing wrong with doing that either, but there is a problem when you're under the assumption that it's just YOU which I assume was the case. (You seem quite surprised of her news of the other guy) To top it all off, she couldnt even be descent enough to tell you like a woman.........10 text messages, LAME! As we like to say around here, ON TO THE NEXT ONE!

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    sigh...what is up with these having relationship conversations via texts...

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    I agree it could've been a lot worse. She was selfish for stringing you along, but at least she told you how it is. I've been with girls before who would string me along for as long as possible while they see how their other dates pan out creating all sorts of stupid excuses in the process. I felt like punching a few of them in their stupid, selfish, pretty face, repeatedly. But it's just a phase and that too will pass. Don't get hung up on it, you'll find someone who's worth it in the future.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NBT View Post
    There are TONS of girls like that.

    lol @ the "not knowing what she wants" line.

    A confused girl is completely worthless in terms of pursuing.
    I know man. This is one of many. I just have to suck it up and move on. I get attached too easily but I'm getting better at getting less attached so avoid getting my feelings hurt when this stuff happens.



    Quote Originally Posted by IncognitoSir View Post
    man, I feel ya Raze. She did waste your time. I think the reason you're pissed is not because she wasted your time, it's because she kinda lied to you and she wasted your time. You ask, how did she lie Sir? Well, She was dating you and another guy right? This entire time, she was simply comparing you 2 guys back and fourth to see which "one" she wanted to pursue. Absolutely nothing wrong with doing that either, but there is a problem when you're under the assumption that it's just YOU which I assume was the case. (You seem quite surprised of her news of the other guy) To top it all off, she couldnt even be descent enough to tell you like a woman.........10 text messages, LAME! As we like to say around here, ON TO THE NEXT ONE!
    Yep, that's pretty much it. I knew it was over when it happened. So I told myself onto the next one. She's not a woman, she's a child and I think she will end up being indecisive towards her date as well. She doesn't know what she wants. Plus, her friends have issues. I wouldn't want that on my plate anyway. I work full time plus Grad School so I hate when people waste my time.



    Quote Originally Posted by phys251 View Post
    sigh...what is up with these having relationship conversations via texts...
    Not my idea. I have no clue man. I prefer talking on the phone and clearly she didn't have the balls to tell me.



    Quote Originally Posted by Mishanya View Post
    I agree it could've been a lot worse. She was selfish for stringing you along, but at least she told you how it is. I've been with girls before who would string me along for as long as possible while they see how their other dates pan out creating all sorts of stupid excuses in the process. I felt like punching a few of them in their stupid, selfish, pretty face, repeatedly. But it's just a phase and that too will pass. Don't get hung up on it, you'll find someone who's worth it in the future.
    That's how I felt. I kept it cool. I told her Sianara and she kept texting me saying I'm so sorry. I replied by saying no wories, I saved money. Then, I deleted her.
    Last edited by Raze; 21-07-10 at 05:40 AM.
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