If you delete someone on Facebook.....

[MaggieK]

Is there a way to get them back without looking foolish? We still have each other on Instagram, should I initiate the first step? We went out twice and texted endlessly. The first date was amazing but the second date he was very arrogant. I ended it that night and now I'm having second thoughts. Any advice?

[madotnw_nihs]

Just say "I unfriended you after the 2nd date because you were an arrogant prick, but now I changed my mind. Please allow me to add you again."....jk

There isn't away to do this without being foolish or blatantly lying. I would just leave the fb thing unfriended for now and see where the relationship goes from here. Maybe he will remain arrogant and you don't want to have anything to do with them.

[MaggieK]

"I unfriended you after the 2nd date because you were an arrogant prick, but now I changed my mind. Please allow me to add you again." I love it lol!!

I think if I re-add him on facebook, I will look foolish and indecisive. I feel down because I really liked him and I miss chatting with him. We had some deep conversations that lasted until the wee hours of the morning, we never ran out of things to talk about. He was sad that I ended the relationship after the second date, but didn't do much to try to stop it. He hasn't tried to communicate with me since, so I take it he doesn't care.

[Hooo!]

Stop being superficial. You want to give someone a second chance to come into your life? Then do it.

[MaggieK]

I just don't know how to approach the situation.

[Hooo!]

Put name in Facebook line
Click on it
Click on become friends

You do not have to justify your actions to anyone.
You want to be a mature grown up? Then act like it

[TheEvilJester]

I guess if I were in your situation I'd try giving him a second chance FIRST. There is obviously some reason you stopped bothering and you chose to unfriend him on Facebook. So, I think if it were me I wouldn't add him back yet, but I'd reach out and see if he might want to give the relationship another try. You can always add him later if things go well.

But, honestly, it really doesn't matter all that much. Sure, maybe you'll feel a little silly, but who cares really? I know I'm making it sound much more simple than it IS, but at the end of the day, it's just Facebook. If you add him back and he doesn't reciprocate, or it in any other way backfires... well, heck, at least then you know for sure. So, honestly, just do what feels right for you. Good luck to you either way.

[MaggieK]

Thank you for taking the time to answer me. I'll give it some thought and decided if I want to reach out to him. Thank you all!!

[GLYC]

"I unfriended you after the 2nd date because you were an arrogant prick, but now I changed my mind. Please allow me to add you again." I love it lol!!

I think if I re-add him on facebook, I will look foolish and indecisive. I feel down because I really liked him and I miss chatting with him. We had some deep conversations that lasted until the wee hours of the morning, we never ran out of things to talk about. He was sad that I ended the relationship after the second date, but didn't do much to try to stop it. He hasn't tried to communicate with me since, so I take it he doesn't care.

I was in a similar position to this guy before, if you removed me from Facebook, ended things and I said I was upset and didn't want for things to be over, what else can a guy do?

I'm not going to stalk someone, I'm not going to beg or plead or persuade you, I'll simple accept it.

The Facebook thing, ehh.. yeah, I never do that stuff. Realistically though, a decent person won't makea big deal out of it if you try to readd them.

He was arrogant, which is a con. And it's your right to end things if you choose.

I think just readd him, I wouldn't say anything in regards to removing him I guess.
You can always reach out to him, in fact, since you ended things, it really has to Be your idea to rekindle things in the first place.

Like i said. I don't like reaching out to people first who have done things like this when I'm in his position, removing someone from Facebook does have some meaning, I would take it as you never want to hear from me again.

[MaggieK]

GLYC, you make a lot of sense, thank you so much for opening my eyes. How would you approach the situation, should I just re-add him on facebook or send him a message asking to be friends?

I know if I just re-add him I will look foolish and indecisive. I feel sending him a message would be my best option, just not sure what to say. Any suggestions?

[lovebroken]

Just re-add, and say you deleted by accident clearing out others off your list and realized you accidentally deleted him and it was a mistake. That might save face.

[GLYC]

Eh, it's up to you. When I got ghosted and women came back, they usually said a brief apology. You can just be honest about things, "hey I wasn't happy with how I handled things, removing you was kinda presumptuous and immature, I'm sorry etc etc"

The first time that happened to me, I was initially a little upset and kinda thinking like "what the heck, no", but I was pretty young (21-22). I was a little mad, but I cooled off and responded like 12 hours later or something. Today, I dont think it's a big deal, yeah, it's a little rude at times, but some people just can't speak their truth when things arent working and lack good communication. I get that, its hard.

You can even be really direct and say you'd like to start over. If he declines, just say let me know if you ever change your mind.

It's tough because some of those same turnoffs could still be there though.