Hey, first time posting. Kinda nervous. I guess part of me thins that, if I take my concerns public, that'll give them more power and validity. Still, I think I might need help. Also, be warned: long post. I just want to cover all the bases and make sure the situation is understood.
I've been in a relationship with my girl friend for just over a year now. She's wonderful. However, over the past week or so I've been rather concerned with her behavior, which began about a week ago today.
About two weeks ago we went out on our first-year anniversary. (Her words, not mine. I point this out because, in some ways, she is kinda reserved when it comes to talking bluntly about something like that.) The night went well. We enjoyed ourselves, and much of the week went pretty well... until Saturday. I went over to her place and we hung out; we were studying and working on projects, mostly. The last week of classes for the quarter were a few days away. When I arrived, she seemed rather... depressed. Distant. Cold, even. This change in mood was very, very sudden. I stayed with her for much of the day and, sensing something wrong, tried to ask her about it. As usual when she's depressed, she responded with either a shrug or some other non-committal comment. Still worried but thinking she was having a normal mood swing, I simply hung out, gave her attention (which she didn't respond to), then drove us back to my place to meet up with friends for a game of RPG.
This is where things really began to concern me.
She seemed much more outgoing with our friends. Talked more, laughed, concentrated better on her work and game. This made me feel better, but after all was said and done, and I drove her back home, she seemed very depressed again and didn't respond to my inquires about her mood and health.
This sort of thing has been going on for a week now. Seems depressed and distant around me, yet her normal perky self when with others. Lately, though, she's been more extroverted, yet remains distanced, in a sense. Tonight we and some friends went out. It was freezing, soI put my arm around her in the car and she promptly huddled against me. Later she seemed physically distant, and other times not. And one of the last things she said that night really struck me, though. A mutual friend mentioned that she needs to train me more, to which she replied, "Oh, he's a lost cause." We three were all sitting together looking through some movies. She's always had a kinda mean sense of humor, which is consistent with everyone, but this one just really bothered me.
In short, I guess, I'm getting a lot of mixed messages. So... what should I do? I'm willing to do anything for her. Willing to talk about her emotions. I mean, I'm not the best conversationalist, and I'm a pretty quiet, introverted kinda guy, but I'm more than willing to listen and respond when it comes to her emotions. I've said as much to her several times in the past. So... gah, I don't know. -_-