appearance?

[oneeyemonkeypie]

Im not sure if this is the right place for it, but it was as close as I could come. I am a junior in high school and i got a problem. I think i have a great personality, even though im sarcastic, everyone thinks im funny. i can make people laugh all the time, and others enjoy spending time around me (even though im cynical-go figure!). however, even though every girl i know wants to be at least a sort of friend with me, not ONE of them are attracted to me. it sucks! I think its my appearance. im tall, and kinda thin (6'2", 160 pounds). i guess im "lanky". and i think I give off a 'compuiter geek' vibe, even though im not. im smart and wear glasses tho, and that is what gave me that reputation (I think). as i said, I wear glasses and have kinda long hair that is fine and a little wavy-which means its always curling up ans stiking out, making me look like an idiot. I have a kinda thin face, and a big nose(well, thats what I think).

1. Is it my appearance that puts people off?

2. what would be a good haircut? i was thinking short-is there a good style that would make me look less 'geekish'?

3. what clothes should I wear to make me look less thin and gawky?

4.are glasses always bad, and should i get contacts?

if you can help me, i thank you. everyone else has been useless so far.

[hallanole]

ah i went through this stage with my brother. sometimes i wish i didn't help him. then the phone would of stopped ringing for awhile!

dude i would help but i need to see a pic of ya.

but basically your going to be in this akward stage for a lil' bit. it happens. your in jr high. your body is just adjusting. if you do have a pic i'll help ya out.

ok the goth/artist/med student has spoken.

[hallanole]

(excuse my spelling now! i'm on pain meds)
hair is fine. the unruly look is in. so if you grow it out just a bit and have the almost bed head look that that will work.

on a serious note. that orange color your wearing. no. that just..no.
stick with primary colors. and if layering like fist pic... choose a lighter color shirt for the under shirt.

as i see in the pics, you have filled out more in the second. which will happen. your testoseron levels are increasing and bring forth muscle mass.

i see you look fine for your age.

i hope i helped.

[MVPlaya]

Hello my "not really a computer geek" computer geek,

Its all about attitude and personality, thats the most important lesson. I spend a lot of time going out and I can just see all the pretty boys who you'd think would get all the girls but instead get blue balls. Its the guys with balls who get the chicks. If you're a funny guy, thats a great skill to have. Learn to talk to people and learn not to be egocentric, yet, at the same time, know your own value. You're going to have a long time to figure out how to get girls, until then, just know that you're young, high school doesn't mean shit, and women like men with balls.

[oneeyemonkeypie]

mm kay. i guess im really egocentric, i oughta work on that.

as for bedhead look-not really. its more of an eww look. do you have a liberal ars school filled with hippies near you? if you do undoubtedly there are at least a few potheads with real sringy and wavy hair. its kinda like that now. i just need a short cut. any advice on what to do? (other than get the buzz?)

thanks for all the advice.

[PandaCivic]

if ur comfortable with how you look, why should it matter what people think? you want girls to just like you for your appearance? if you are really funny as you say, the problem may be that the girls you're wanting are looking for someone that can be serious at the right times. i've learned that being funny really does win a girls heart, but if you're the funny guy ALL the time, then they will see you as the prankster and will never take you seriously. you need to tone down the humor and cynicism. i lost a girl's interest once because i was a cynic and she saw that as very funny, but she wanted someone to melt her heart. think about it...

[Pretender]

I'd lose the glasses and bright colors. Girls like their men dark and mysterious.

[dragoon]

4.are glasses always bad, and should i get contacts

Try contacts. Seriously. You can get a trial pair of contacts after an eye exam relatively cheaply. They'll last about a month. Plenty of time to see if they help. Even if other people don't care either way, if you feel better with them on, it will show. If you find contacts are a great boon, then their cost and hassle are worth it.

[Fawn]

Well, I wear glasses, I am comfortable wearing them, so its all your choice. but seriously you look fine. Why worry so much about looks. Theres probably girls out there that like you, but are to shy to do anything. Don't always blame it on looks.

[oneeyemonkeypie]

yeah, i know. my only real problem right now is my hair. I hate it, my parents hate it, and even my best friend told me (while drunk) that i had the most skeevy(that means bad) ass hair hed ever seen. it just curls up when long and looks trashy.

all i need now is a suggestion on a good short haircut style other than "the buzz". ive never really had short hair, so im kinda lacking on this subject.

[IceQueen]

Get lenses, get some muscle, straighten up your shoulders and stop slouching!

[oneeyemonkeypie]

Get lenses, get some muscle, straighten up your shoulders and stop slouching!

mm, i know! i slouch! but every time i try to remind myself, i forget like 10 minutes later!

im a bit bigger now that i lifted and currently have a job at a marina. lets put it this way-people dont try to pick fights with me anymore.

so now i need 2 things. 1.) a goiod haircut
2.)some way to remember to stand up straight.

[squirrley]

you dont need a string around your finger to remind yourself to stand up straight.

Its all confidence-use that on a daily basis and you'll be fine.

[sfalexi]

As for me, I've decided one day to get a professional makeover at least once in my life. It's on my list of things to do because I'm "curious". I want to see what a professional would think about how I should wear my hair, whether I should dye or highlight it, what clothes would flatter me more, etc. etc. etc. Other things on this list are get a manicure/pedicure, and get a professional massage. I think what I'll end up doing is just getting a day pass to some spa which will accomplish the other two AT ONCE as well as get a facial and other stuff that I'm curious about too. I swear if my house was a little messier I'd call those Queer Eye guys in a second!

As for what you can do, maybe you can go to a clothing store and ask one of the guys/girls there to help you pick out stuff that looks good on you. Most will help you if they're not busy and if it looks like you'll be buying stuff. Always nice to have a second opinion. And if you're trying to look a little better for the ladies, how much better can you get than having a lady help you decide what looks good? I know when I go shopping (or at least the three or four times that I have) I always either bring a shopping 'date', or ask the workers whether it looks good or not and if not what would they suggest.

Alexi

[SecretDontTell]

Remember Quang from the show “Queer eye for the straight guy” I didn’t make the cut because I was straight. But I can help you with style and socialism. Hell I work in a Salon =D

I live by 3 lines and one of them is DON'T CHANGE FOR NOBODY. If you can't get dates, don't ****ing care.... Sure your boys will start clowning...so I'll give you a few pointers

As for the pic, you have nothing to hide. You look like most other white boys so don't trip

1) If you rock with orange gear you gotta get soemthing to match it with like a pair of Nike White/Orange dunks. I don't **** with orange. My main color scheme is navy blue, baby blue, black and maybe sometimes white fa sho. Dark colors bring your character out. Just go shopping with one of your homegirls that YOU think dress nice. If you are too shy to do that then just rock with what everyone else is. Rather try to fit in than outcasted. I rock with Sean John, Nautica, Enyce, Ralph, DKNY and some urban brands. As for jeans, Levi's, Sean Johns, enyce, Rocawear, DKNY, Polo and a pair of dickies. Get a bunch of 60 dollar pairs of kicks that match with your fits. Get them in almost every possible color that matches your outfit scheme. I front with dunks, adidas, white reebox and tim if I want to get sophisticated. I ain't your mom so I ain't going to tell you what to wear. Just do you, but whatever you do, ALWAYS match your outfit

2) Glasses on a white guy with a skinny head equals a geek. SOrry to flame but that is my perception. Definitely lose them. Go with contacts if you can stand a week of pain. I wear them and I don't feel a thing in my eye after 2 weeks. If you aren't comfortable with contacts, some glasses look hot. Get ones that have frames on the top, not all around the lens. Lightweight is must and try to get smaller/compact lens.

3) You can't chop off your nose so live with it

4) Haircut, I would say a fade, but if you have a skinny head like you say, you might look like a scientist. Best way is to cut your hair and leave about 2 inches. if it is too curly gel that mutha****er up. Wouldn't hurt to go to a salon to conk it up (make it straight). If you want, dying it black would give you a look.

5) Try to get a distinct scent. Use a scent that only you have. If you smell like shit, get some cologne. But I can’t tell you what to get because cologne smells different on different people. Something in the body chemistry equilibrium. But I wear Victoria Secret Very Sexy for him and Jean Paul Gaulitier the blue bottle. Very secret is like a hunnie magnet. It smells ****ing good. But don’t hold me to this…what smells good on me won’t necessarily mean it will smell good on you.

On with your social life…

Seems to me you have a low self esteem. Just give hints to some of your girls that you like them. Occasionally caress them and make long eye contacts during conversations. But don’t hesitate too long to make your move or you’ll end up in their “friend zone” trust me, if you are horny and can’t get any, you don’t want to stay in there. I keep my homegirls close and even though I have feelings for them and they have feelings for me, we’re still in the zone. I like this more than going out and dating them. We essentially do everything that couples do except I don’t have a hunnie calling me up every 5 minutes. If you get to know a girl for a long time and have that bond, it’s way better than making her your wifey

If you don’t want to **** with your friendship just mac on girls at parties. Easy stuff and easy pleasures. Hell just talk to a chick at a store or something. Most will give numbers. Like if you go to macy’s or something, FIYAH HUNNIES work there. Just ask them to write their email address on the back of the store receipt after you buy something and straight up just tell them to put their number down also. Works 110 percent of the time. Just be yourself.

If you ain’t got the guts to do any of that. The only advice I can give you is GROW SOME ****ING BALLS. If you can’t have confident in yourself, you’ll be un-date-able material later on. Ever seen those rogaine commercials and the confidence they get with a head full of hair. CONFIDENCE IS THE KEY MY FRIEND.

Also, get out more. Go to malls and check out the latest fashions. You will learn a lot more with a stroll in a mall that your experiences on the internet.

Whatever you do, Don’t TRY to fit in just do it and be you.