Is there such a thing as too big?

[oneandonly]

Ha. Even under the anonymity of internet forum, I find this embarrassing (silly, I know) but guess this is the only way I can get good advice.

So, I met this guy who is 6'1" (185cm). I am 5'4" (162cm).

My exs were those guys with pretty face (boyish looking ones), about 10~15 cm or so taller than me. Didn't have any issue in terms of size incompatibility in bedroom. Only one ex was as tall as this guy but he's rather slim so his was naturally not thick so there was no problem there.

This guy on the other hand is a big man with broad shoulders. I am slim.

When I first saw him, I wasn't actually attracted to him. Thought he was a good looking guy but very tall and not my usual type. But the day we kissed, I was like, wow! We seem to have this incredible physical chemistry between us, which I didn't realise until he kissed me.

We both are very passionate. Lots of foreplay and etc but the actual deed didn't happen. His is too thick for me. I fear it tears my tissue hence why it's very painful. He suggested Lube next time. I've never used one.

Is it something that will never work out? Will Lube work?

Would love to hear if there are other couples who have a similar height difference and their experience in bedroom. Or any advice!

[smackie9]

Most women out there would be saying "Lucky girl!" But I hear ya. I'm freakishly small (tight)and have had trouble with this as well. There are many things you can try, like using a dildo first and lots of lube to stretch it out or he can use his fingers. Most lube is sold with condoms and they all about the same. Some are water based which would be better for it won't ruin the sheets and cleans up easier. Basically it boils down to communication. You have to let him know to take his time and voice it to him if there is any discomfort. And don't forget to RELAX! maybe have him give you a massage

[smackie9]

Tip: With my experience, height doesn't dictate penis size.....

[tehwarlock]

Tip: With my experience, height doesn't dictate penis size.....

I'm 6'1'' and an an average 5.5'' down there. Self example and unintentional and unpleasant penis sightings of peers can confirm that.

[smackie9]

I'm 6'1'' and an an average 5.5'' down there. Self example and unintentional and unpleasant penis sightings of peers can confirm that.

There are small girls out there like myself that appreciate 5.5"

[JadenMia]

Well i just got out of a relationship a while back with someone who was over 6ft and im 5'3. At first i was worried about the problems we wold have in the bedroom according to our height difference, but it turned out to be amazing! His penis was pretty average size too, nothing out of the ordinary.

I just met someone who is probably around 5'9". When i first felt his penis i was scared! It was bigger than i had ever experienced and i have been told that i am quite tight down there anyway so i worried a little bit as my ex filled me quite nicely but was nothing compared to this guy in size.
We decided to try it out, he went down on me to get me going and then he tried to enter. I was maybe a little tense so it was tough for him to do so. I could feel the 'squeeze', and it hurt maybe for a split second. Then after we got going it was really good. The feeling of him filling every part of me was pretty intense and i have decided i like this size alot

Maybe there is such thing as too big, but i think it would be more length than girth. Too long hits the cervix and that is really uncomfortable.

[ShellyZ]

Lube works! It's a wonderful thing, really. Just make sure you use water-based lube (not oil-based) so it's safe to use with a condom. Put a drop of lube on the condom-covered penis, spread it around, and you're good to go. Make sure he goes very slow, and if you need to put more lube on him, then put more lube on him. Spend extra time on foreplay and go as slow as you need.

Personally I think there is such a thing as too big. I'm very petite (only 5'1") and I would be very reluctant to have sex with a guy who's way too well-endowed. I don't think it's impossible, it just wouldn't be my preference. Even with normal-sized guys, I like to use a little lube. Helps it glide better. Good luck hon.

[tehwarlock]

There are small girls out there like myself that appreciate 5.5"

Aww, I feel better now I was thinking my girlfriend's first time would be less uncomfortable because of it.

[smackie9]

Lube works! It's a wonderful thing, really. Just make sure you use water-based lube (not oil-based) so it's safe to use with a condom. Put a drop of lube on the condom-covered penis, spread it around, and you're good to go. Make sure he goes very slow, and if you need to put more lube on him, then put more lube on him. Spend extra time on foreplay and go as slow as you need.

Personally I think there is such a thing as too big. I'm very petite (only 5'1") and I would be very reluctant to have sex with a guy who's way too well-endowed. I don't think it's impossible, it just wouldn't be my preference. Even with normal-sized guys, I like to use a little lube. Helps it glide better. Good luck hon.

I have to say the same goes for women too.....your height doesn't always dictate the circumference of your vagina....that's what I have been told.

[HeartIsAching]

Yes, there is such a thing as too big, however, the size of the man has little or nothing to do with the size of the purple helmet warrior.

[oneandonly]

How about 'too tight'? Do guys all enjoy no matter how tight (the tighter the better?) or feel any sort of discomfort at all?

Perhaps it's just me but the height of my exs pretty much has a direct reflection on their size.

[tehwarlock]

Wouldn't too tight be painful for the guy? Emphasis on 'too'.

[Gratedwasabi]

How about 'too tight'? Do guys all enjoy no matter how tight (the tighter the better?) or feel any sort of discomfort at all?

Perhaps it's just me but the height of my exs pretty much has a direct reflection on their size.

If we can fit it in in the first place, no, it can never be too tight.

HOWEVER. If it's a shallow vaginal canal and we make contact with the cervix it can be a bit painful.

But tightness? No. There's a reason guys love anal.. tighter = better sensation.

[smackie9]

How about 'too tight'? Do guys all enjoy no matter how tight (the tighter the better?) or feel any sort of discomfort at all?

Perhaps it's just me but the height of my exs pretty much has a direct reflection on their size.

Too tight means it's over in two pumps.....not a good thing.

[bulrush]

A couple things. First, I like to have sex, a lot. I only see my gf once every 2 weeks. So we have lots of sex. We always use lube just to prevent us from getting sore too soon. We only stop having sex once one of us gets sore. Then we take a break. So, I prefer the brand called "Wet". It's glycerin-based, and also contains Vitamin E and aloe, both of which are good for the skin.

Second, men love girls who are "firm" but not too tight. After a lot of sex, if a girl is too tight, the man can get sore as he is constantly being squished. Of course, when he gets sore, he will finally take a break from sex, if too much sex is a problem.