Sensitive Issue

[Big__Rich]

Hey ladies.

This is a slightly sensitive issue, and as i havent been on the site for too long please don't give me a hard time.

OK, I'm an english guy with Ghanian roots. My family are from a part of ghanian where the people were renowned for being big- guys-generally taller, large frames, and women less tall, but often quite round and well endowed.

I don't know why, but i tend to find that i'm attracted to slender, petite girls- not sure why, just tend to find them sexier- i usually go for white girls, but have dated a brazilian girl and onekenyan girl.

Anyway, I'm 6ft 7", but also generally in proportion, which makes me very large down below when you compare to some of the averages mentioned in magazines and papers. I've had relationships where things have been good, but often i do find my size can intimidate girls and make them tense/nervous etc- a coupl eof relationships have gone wrong because of this.

I'd be really interested to know how best to deal with the subject, and get a female perspective.I know the answer will usually be wait and see and only mention it when things develop. However, I really don't want to waste my time and the girl's time if it's gonna be a problem.

I obviously don't wanna mention i'm well hung straight away, but what is acceptable?

Thanks for reading

x

[joe1234]

Go do some porno flicks

[vashti]

I think that petite girls who are worried about your size will avoid dating you, unless it never occurred to them that your equipment might be proportionate to your height, in which case they may decide upon seeing it that they never want to sleep with you.

[Big__Rich]

Vashti

Thanks for your reply.

In my experience I'm not too sure too many women think about size issues to begin with. I also tend to take things slow, so don't really want to spend a month dating someone if there are going to be serious problems.

With my girl I went on a few dates with i tried to drop it in as a joke, but it didnt really work

R

[vashti]

Sorry my friend, but I don't see that there is any way you can bring this up tactfully right at the beginning. If the subject comes up (no pun intended) I guess you could casually mention that you are entirely proportional.

[Gigabitch]

I agree with what Vashti said about them being able to extrapolate the size of the issue at hand.

I don't think there's a lot you can do about this, other than make sure they get a good idea of what's going on down there before you get anywhere close to penetration. Make sure they give it a good fondling. Then they've got the choice to stay or run.

Me? I might run, and you'd have to respect that.

[vashti]

I might stay, just out of curiosity. I've always wondered about the really tall guys. heheh

(Then again, I am rather tall for a girl, so I guess I am out of luck.)

[clynn]

The first guy I ever slept with is the biggest penis I've ever had yet!

How was I to know!?!??!

I don't think you would want to just bring it up. I always like to touch a guy before it goes inside anyhow.............in fact, I'm sure that most girls would.

And if you're gentle and take your time........

I tend to be sensitive and have issues on that way, but I wouldn't tell a guy that before I was going to sleep with him necessarily.

My expectations are such that a guy would be gentle at the outstart, no matter his size. If I don't think he will me - he ain't for me!

[Big__Rich]

Ladies

Thanks alot for the replies. I was slightly worried that as this was one of my first few posts I might not be taken seriously- I'm extremely grateful.

For some reason it's much easier with this subject to ask questions over the 'net, rather than talk to someone face to face.

It' s a funny issue. One that I was very proud of, and a little arrogant about, as a teen. As I've got olderand realised that lots of girls out there arent so compatible with a well endowed guy i'm much more uncomfortable with the issue.

Rich

[lamarthe]

There is a lot to be said anout fitting sexually with someone on all levels and it is quite rare.
In any event, I am a woman so I can't pretend I know about boys issues on and worries about their but and better big than small?