Hello. I am in my late teens still at school if that helps with any advice I would be gratefull to get.
So I have been with a girl my age, not from my school for 2 weeks now. I have had relationships for longer but I can honestly say I love this girl more than anything in the world. We are basically neighbours (2 streets away) which really helps because we can always see eachother.
I have known her for a long time ,years, I would'nt go as far as to say we have been friends but we have chatted before and she is best mates with one of my good girl mates. We 'went out with eachother' when we were 9, awwww how cute
Anyway, so we were outside chatting a couple of weeks ago and I just popped the question do you want to be with me? (at the time I thought she was a nice person and pretty, no other thoughts). I was aware that shes had a crush on me for 3 years and shes asked me out before but I was taken at the time. It went as I thought and she said yes, we hugged then left. 2 days later we arranged to meet at my house, bit awkward at first but we were kissing lots later on and I really started to have feelings for her.
Ever since then we have met up and its been simply amazing, we are always connected in a physical way and an emotional way and always telling eachother how we feel about eachother which is really sweet.
Now here is the issue:
I took a look on her facebook wall and there was a post from a guy who she had had a 1 year relationship with before (shes married to him on facebook still), she had told me about him a day before and that they split up because he moved to London (5 hours from where I live, and he does live in London by the way). it said I love you and she put a like on it. Then I took a look on his facebook wall and she had done one of those rate and write things for him and it said "10/10, ummmm iloveyou and i miss you <3".
At this point I was not to worried but I thought I would find out some more, so I added this guy and started chatting to him. He asked me why I added him and I said I am Charlottes boyfriend and he said "haha goood one", I enquired into what he meant and he said "lol but shes my gf?". He seemed friendly enough and I sent him a picture of me and tasmine kissing the day before and he seemed slightly suprised but not shocked. He said "i dunno whats going on then, good luck mate" then he deleted me from facebook. Also he commented on the miss you bit with "i miss you to, but at christmas we will be together", she then replied with an "ermmm".
Okay, so the next step is to speak to Charlotte, she said she doesnt know what he is talking about and she thinks he is just jelous or cant let go (she ended with him by the way).She also said that he claims to be visiting her at christmas but she does not care and does not want to, her last comment was to ignore him. I thought okay then met up with her again and all was fine.
Also sometimes when I ask her if I can meet her say on a monday she might say "no i am spending the day with tom/mark" etc etc. Then i will look on facebook and she will be writing love hearts on their walls etc etc.
I love her lots and we are in a really happy relationship but I do have my doubts.
First of all, what do you think of the situation with that guy in London? is she secretly still with him or the more likely option of he cant let go?
And second off all, is it just her way to flirt lightly with some boys or is she getting up to things when she spends the day with them?
I have spoken to her about it many times and expressed my concerns and she simply says stuff like no way, your the only one for me and I would never dream of it, then she gives me a cuddle and a kiss.
I know its most likely nothing but I just want to erase these doubts.
I am next seeing her on friday and shes staying at mine for the weekend.
Advice is really appreciated?