she left me...

[srow22]

hey, my names scott. so heres my whole story.. august 4th ish one of my old friends who i am no longer friends with.. i depise the kid, broke up with his girlfriend who he was dating for probly less than 4 months. First time i met this girl she was at a hockey game with him, and a bunch of us went out. I had a huge crush on this girl for a while, but I couldnt do anything, she was in a relationship you know. So they broke up, there was a bunch of rumors about her sleeping with some other guy, which i knew wasnt true, but he broke up with her. So me and her were pretty good friends and that night I talked with her trying to cheer her up and what not. The guy she broke up with the night it happened, was playing around with one of my friends, rubbing her boobs and trying to get all on her and w/e which pissed me off. So anyways me and the girl started talking and it was great.. i made her feel good and i felt good doing it. The next day she told me she wanted to be my girlfriend.. I honestly was never happier. We talked on the phone a lot, about 4-5 times a day just seeing how eachother was and w/e. A few days later, she tells me her ex bf sent her a text message..asking her something, she didnt tell me what. Then i felt kinda bad.. had a feeling something was up. The next day she sent me a couple texts saying basically she broke up with me. Turns out i called her on my way to work and she tells me her ex wants to go out to dinner with ehr and his rents and everyone was like no dont, but she said she would. That day was a month and 5 days ago.. And i still feel terrible. I was pretty much devistated that day, I couldnt make any jokes, have fun, i was just so unlike myself. So the following days we barely talked. I needed to straighten everything out though so we talked on the phone.. ended up yelling at eachother and i hung up. The following day i went to her house after calling her to "fix" everything that happened. I tlaked with her probly for an hour.. i wasnt gonna leave till i felt better, such irony there. A week ago i found out that when tehy split he had sex with his older brothers old girlfriend, her whole arguement about him not doing anything with any other girl and only thinking of her pretty much went down the drain there. I was told she didnt know.. so it killed me to know of this and have her not.. i ended up calling her one day to tell her about it. Turns out she already knew, i felt like such an idiot. After that converstaion i ended up throwing my phone and dunno how it didnt break. I dont know why i feel so attatched to her.. its been over a month and i almost feel like im taking steps backwards than moving on. thanks for reading this all i guess lol but pleaseee anyone an outside opinion would greatly help.. any words or advice w.e i dont care.. i just hate feeling like this
-scott

[King Zarathu]

Alright, there's an array of things I could say right now but I don't think it'll do any good; I'll just skip to the point.

Can't you see this girl is doing nothing but causing misery, and you're being a pussy by sticking around, instead of sticking up for yourself? Get rid of her, get her out of your life. The only reason she went out with you is because she was using you as a rebound because she's a low-life, desperate ****.

Find another girl and move on.

[Mathias]

Move on.

You don't deserve to be treated like that.

[vashti]

It sounds like every person you know takes relationships very lightly. I would get rid of the entire lot of friends and start all over again.

[Gigabitch]

Scott, I have a lot of theories about why certain people get into our hearts so deeply when others don't, but none of them are proven or particularly helpful. You're attached to her because you are. That is all.

Just accept the fact that you can't get her out of your heart without causing massive damage to yourself, and try to find a way to get on with your life. Understand that you can continue on your own way without getting closure or answers from her, or knowing how she feels, or anything. It's not really about her.

I understand you're miserable. So are a lot of people around here. At least you've got company, and the whole thing will feel a lot better next year. Little by little.

[Valkyrie]

She's no good for you. This is what I call a distorted love triangle. One person is chasing someone else. As I said, you should turn away before you get to know what the word "depression" really means. I've been there and TRUST me... you don't wanna know. There are many fishes in the sea

[Mathias]

It sounds like every person you know takes relationships very lightly. I would get rid of the entire lot of friends and start all over again.

Yep.

I had to do that once in my life...hardest thing I ever did, but by far, the best thing I ever did.

Being on your own, completely, is a GREAT life lesson.

[Valkyrie]

Being on your own, completely, is a GREAT life lesson.

I totaly agree.....

[Rosebud]

It may not seem as though things get better, but they really do. And I agree that your friends don't seem all that reliable or trustworthy at all. I' take a long hard look at who you are surrounding yourself with.

[Valkyrie]

One thing: never mix friendship and love. And certainly don't listen to ANYONE but your own head when it comes to love